Cordelia ,'Showtime'
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Separate houses is Robert B. Parker's (of Spenser for Hire fame) solution. His wife of 22 years threw him out. He pined. He begged. They bought a duplex...he must seek permission to enter her half. Beyond that? Happy clams.
Fela and I talked about living together before we got so sick and things got strained. Now? I'm glad it didn't work out. Saved by the bug, I guess.
yes, the Parker House is in Cambridge, outside of Harvard Square. EllenBS showed it to me on our first F2F. Ah, memories!
You also see those issues/feelings played out between the protagonist and his SO, in the books.
You also see those issues/feelings played out between the protagonist and his SO, in the books.
A relationship I adore. I'm a bit over the Spenser plot(s) but I love hearing what the characters have to say to each other. Especially when Joe Montenga (sp) reads the audio version.
Glad my classic extrovert is also a hardcore reader.
A guy I used to work with and I would often have a "one house, separete wings, DMZ in the middle" discussion. We both thought that would just be an ideal set-up. I still do. He got married after I left... I wonder whether he got his wish.
I can't imagine sharing my space with a boyfriend. However, I've done so many things I can't imagine (and missed out on some I thought were sure things) that I have no idea about how well I might adapt to that happenstance.
I don't have too much of an issue sharing space with TomW... we're both pretty low key when we are on the same floor/in the same room, most of the time. The house has three floors and in decent weather, a backyard so that we can take our private time pretty easily.
However, when my friend moves into the third floor bedroom (temporarily) things may be a bit different... I'm a little nervous, actually.
I can totally see, and have suggested on several occassions, sharing a house with friends and/or family. Seperate living spaces and maybe entrances would be key.
I once knew a couple who did the "neighboring condos" things. Seemed to work well. His name was "Clint Wayne" which since he really was a macho type (ex special forces) always cracked me up.
I think that for most people, it's not so much of an issue of space for private time, but the willingness of a partner to leave them alone.