'Harm's Way'
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Who is Trudeu? I don't know if the expression is wrong--both work fine to me.
He's referring to the author of Doonesbury. Sadly, I'm not up with the crazy talk the young people of today are into, so I can't help with the question. Peas out. Was that right?
billytea! I was just trying to wrangle my vacation time for August -- when, exactly are you going to get to Cincy, and when are you leaving?
Serious question. How much is a single woman of modest means (me) expected to give as a wedding gift to a (good but not super-close) work-friend?
I'm not attending the wedding, as it is too far away (no one from work is, as far as I know); I am attending the reception, which is sure to be quite a party. I know this girl from work, and I like her, but we're not bestest buddies. I have very little experience with such social functions, and I'm not really sure what's expected. (They're both late twenties; her first marriage, his second.)
Zenkitty, can you and other co-workers chip in to get a group gift for her?
Oh, we did, Steph. Three of us went in to get her a expensive juicer, which was the shower gift. We all also got her a small "wishing well" gift for the shower. We're also expected to give the new couple cards with money in them at the reception. I didn't know this. I'm such a social klutz. I'm pretty sure none of the other weddings I've been to have had this tradition, though.
There should be a book of rules, covering all possible adult social functions, handed out to everyone on their 20th birthday.
The problem is that every group of people has a different set of rules. Can you ask other people what they're giving?
Is the reception a sit down meal? If so, give the equivilent of the cost of the meal in the card and be done with it. If not, give whatever you feel comfortable with in the card, and that should suffice for a gift.
mini-rant - an invitation is just that, an invitation. Gifts are a bonus. Expectations of gifts make my skin crawl and expectations of money plus gifts is just a lot (especially when shower and engagement and blah blah blahdy blah gifts are also thrown into the mix).
Abstract of the Day:
Unit Roots in Real GNP: Do We Know, and Do We Care?
LAWRENCE J. CHRISTIANO
Northwestern University; Federal Reserve Bank of Clevelandt other authors and banks snipped
NBER Working Paper No. W3130
Abstract: No, and maybe not.
It's a tough to choose between devotion to the theater and devotion to a cat. Particularly when one abused you and the other attacked you this year.
I am not sure why this made me laugh so much!
Perhaps because devotion to either, really, seems ridiculous!
Also, I hate wedding gifts. And I always give a gift, not money, because I am a PITA. How about a nice crystal vase. That was always my gift of choice (although I did work in a crstal dept at the time). But everyone I know still seems t use the crystal.
Candlesticks are often my gift of choice.