Technically, I think it's okay to refer to the partner as an "adulterer" or "adulteress." An adulterer is a person who engages in the act of adultery. The act of adultery is defined as sexual intercourse between a married person and a partner other than the spouse.

If I were trying to differentiate between the cheater and his/her partner for something I was writing, what I called the unmarried participant in adulterous sex would depend on the context.

Asshat's argument was that I didn't produce anything he can use. But he wasn't paying me to produce anything. He was bascially testing me to see if I could figure out their spreadsheet. Which he didn't think I could do to his satisfaction. He said I would be compensated for my time.

I'll see how he responds to my last email but this makes me so glad I didn't get the job. I just want to get paid for the time I put in.

Asshat's argument was that I didn't produce anything he can use.

Asshat's argument is full of shit. Unless you agreed in advance on a flat fee upon delivery, he owes you for your time. End of story. (And I suspect he knows it, which is why he's being an asshat now -- he fucked up, and he's prefer not to have to pay for it.)

Asshat's argument is full of shit. Unless you agreed in advance on a flat fee upon delivery, he owes you for your time. End of story. (And I suspect he knows it, which is why he's being an asshat now -- he fucked up, and he's prefer not to have to pay for it.)

Yeah. He just emailed me back. His counter offer took a minimal amount off of my quote--basically our initial meeting. I think he was just seeing how much he could get off the bill.

This is a good lesson. Don't agree to spec work without discussing fees first thing.

This is a good lesson. Don't agree to spec work without discussing fees first thing

I have made this mistake soooo many times. I'm so sorry for the travail. I hate it when you do honest work and then get screwed.

What is the "other" man or woman called?

Mistress if a woman, lover if a man. Also, the "other man" or "other woman" is acceptable.

Then there are the answers that would try to be funny but probably really wouldn't be.

Mistress! How the hell could I forget that??

DH was suggesting I sell my gronk on ebay. I decicded if putting it up on freecycle would get rid of it, that would suit me fine.

Do not give in on the money .

and in other money news, that is all about me, I am seeing vearious ways to possibly improve our finacial situation - with out using magic money. Slow, but if I could just get rid of the revovling credit, money life would be easier.

Yeah. He just emailed me back. His counter offer took a minimal amount off of my quote--basically our initial meeting. I think he was just seeing how much he could get off the bill.

I suppose it isn't worth your zen or time to argue about it, but darn it, I'd want to add money for the time spent arguing about him paying a rate HIS ASSISTANT TOLD YOU WAS 'FINE'.

I'm not yelling at you. I'm yelling at him.