P-C, it sounds to me like the letter did what it needed to do, so yay!

Married Robin!!!! Yippee on the honeymoony goodness!

That is why I trust your advice, Hec. It compliments my Homicide-fan worldview. Just be careful you don't get all "I'm a music reviewer. We don't have good news for anyone. Ever."

P-C, it sounds to me like the letter did what it needed to do, so yay!

Yay, and thank you so much.

you do doom a lot , david. which is odd, because i don't think of you as a pessimist.

I need to find the study I read that actually shows people who have a more cynical view of life tend to actually be...not right, exactly, but more aware than people who are more optimistic.

I found it a long time ago when my sister accused me of being Ms. Cynic and Doom & Gloom. It wasn't that I was trying to preach the Doom, just that I was more of a realist than she was.

That only applies to myself, however. With others, I figure they have their own Gloomy scenarios to worry about, so I try not to paint it black for them if I don't have to.

See, with me, it's the other way around. With others, I am all "This is what it is, and it sucks ass."

Whereas with myself, I'm all "Lalalala! Head in the sand! If I ignore it, it goes away! Lalalalal -- BOOM! The sky is falling!! ARGHH! Hopw'd THAT happen?"

I don't think of it as being gloomy...more like laying it on the line. But that is why when somebody asks for my honest opinion I've made people cry enough to say "really? Really really?"

P-C, it sounds to me like the letter did what it needed to do, so yay!

Yay, and thank you so much.

You're most welcome.

I need to find the study I read that actually shows people who have a more cynical view of life tend to actually be...not right, exactly, but more aware than people who are more optimistic.

I'm sure Pete still has the link to it. The survey made him feel quite vindicated about his general Eeyore-like outlook.

P-C, like you need to hear more, but here's my nickel:it seems to me that when your uncle gives you advice, his motivation is not to give you good advice, but to control your behavior. Not that he's trying to be mean or hurt you at all, but from what I've read of your family dynamic, the role of P-C in the family is to do as he's told, and families always try to preserve the status quo. Breaking it hurts; most people would rather be unhappy with the misery they know than be responsible for making their loved ones unhappy by changing how things work in order to benefit themselves. When people do try to change their roles, it sends everyone into a self-defensive tizzy, trying to keep the family functioning as it always has. When your uncle (or anyone in the family) tells you to do something, remember that what they really want is to keep you in your accustomed place. Again, not that they're deliberately being mean to you, they're just playing out their own roles in the family dynamic.

To sum up: yeah, don't listen to your uncle's advice.

In conclusion, let's make out in your new apartment.

yay for good response.