vw, I'd say b, except it doesn't have to be a confrontation, just ask. It's not your job to police her behavior, but if you are wondering, better to ask than to nurse suspicion.
Oh! I know this one! 'Slaying entails certain sacrifices, blah blah blahbity blah, I'm so stuffy, gimme a scone.'
Buffy ,'Help'
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-t - Aug 10, 2006 7:47:15 am PDT #7909 of 10001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
SailAweigh - Aug 10, 2006 7:50:09 am PDT #7910 of 10001
Nana korobi, ya oki. (Fall down seven times, stand up eight.) ~Yuzuru Hanyu/Japanese proverb
P-C, be honest with the dude that you felt pressured by your uncle to write that letter and you didn't mean to make it sound like you were trying to take advantage of anybody, either him or the previous tennant. Tell him you really were happy with the original arrangement and you'll be glad to adhere to it. I think he saw it as you trying to get something for nothing and that something was just a little bit more than a cookie. Just my two cents worth.
Cass - Aug 10, 2006 7:52:21 am PDT #7911 of 10001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
I'm really not sure how to read his tone.I think some of the tone on both sides could have been better. If you are so concerned with him not overcollecting on rent then it seems odd to also expect him to have the unit rented out without payment.
Perhaps an apology and either pay the rent to move early, which is what I have always seen done in California, or move in as agreed with no additional charges.
I know you just want to get out of your current circumstances and into a new place of your own.
Nora Deirdre - Aug 10, 2006 7:52:29 am PDT #7912 of 10001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
eek, PC. I think he may have just been reacting to what he percieved as a weird request (you seem also to think it is weird). Just let it go and it will blow over. My advice is just accept, move on, and don't take any further advice from your uncle about landlord/tenent relations. :)
Polter-Cow - Aug 10, 2006 7:53:43 am PDT #7913 of 10001
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
P-C, be honest with the dude that you felt pressured by your uncle to write that letter and you didn't mean to make it sound like you were trying to take advantage of anybody, either him or the previous tennant. Tell him you really were happy with the original arrangement and you'll be glad to adhere to it. I think he saw it as you trying to get something for nothing and that something was just a little bit more than a cookie.
Yeah, I think that is a good idea because he's an upstanding guy, and I want to show him that I try to be too. I feel awful right now for some reason. I think I'm about to cry.
vw bug - Aug 10, 2006 7:54:25 am PDT #7914 of 10001
Mostly lurking...
Ok. Thanks for the advice all. I've done stuff like this with her before. I just worry a little more, because she's in a new relationship and her girls are here and blah blah blah. She really has been doing well, so I need to not jump to conclusions. I just hate to see all this work she's done go down the tube.
So, I'll bring it up in a non-confrontational way, and I'm sure everything will be fine. I know one of the things she appreciates about our relationship is the honesty and whatnot, so I don't think she'll be mad...unless it really is a problem.
Stephanie - Aug 10, 2006 8:01:41 am PDT #7915 of 10001
Trust my rage
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Thanks, Betsy. We go back on Tuesday so I'll ask her then.
P-C, if it was me, I'd respond as Sail suggested. I personally just would hate the doubt of not knowing what the guy was thinking about me and my intentions.
ION, I have a job interview on Monday.
Polter-Cow - Aug 10, 2006 8:06:17 am PDT #7916 of 10001
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!
I personally just would hate the doubt of not knowing what the guy was thinking about me and my intentions.
Yeah, I don't want him to think I'm some sort of weasely cheatbag on a regular basis.
ION, I have a job interview on Monday.
Good luck!
SailAweigh - Aug 10, 2006 8:06:50 am PDT #7917 of 10001
Nana korobi, ya oki. (Fall down seven times, stand up eight.) ~Yuzuru Hanyu/Japanese proverb
Whoohoo, job interview! Good luck, Stephanie.
Vortex - Aug 10, 2006 8:07:01 am PDT #7918 of 10001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
I'm really not sure how to read his tone. As I said, he's perfectly within his rights to decline, and I understand that, but some of it seems overly sarcastic and slightly malicious.
be careful of reading tone in email. However, I think that the landlord is perfectly within his rights to be confused. I don't know why you just didnt' tell you uncle that you had asked and he said no. yes, that would be a lie, but you wouldn't be about to cry right now.