Geez, Sparky. Why doesn't the Head take your opinions and factor them into the mix? It seems odd that the whole staff liked A and Head would choose B. Did Head at least explain why B is a better choice?

B adds to diversity around here. All things being equal, I absolutely agree. However, I was part of the two groups that took B out to dinner and lunch while B was here, and she never asked any of us one question. Not one. She didn't want to know where she might live, what rents were like, how we made our commute, where I got my fabulous shoes, etc. Nothing. We work in a bullpen type arrangement, so having someone we like having around is pretty important to us.

Yeah, having a person like B in a group that works very closely is hard to do. It's one of the reasons I left my old job. They brought in A and A made no attempt whatsoever to try to relate to any of us in the office. I thought maybe it was just that she was shy or quiet, but whenever anyone above her or someone she had worked with at the Wells Fargo building cam einto the office, she opended up like a cheap whore on Sunday.

wow, I 'm nopt a big talker - but if I was lunching with people I might work with I'ds ask some sorta questions ...

Happy birthday Katie B

It's pretty disconcerting when a candidate doesn't at least try to get along with the people they're going to spend their work-life.

It's pretty disconcerting when the BigBoss tries to tell you it was because the candidate was "just tired," too. (Which she just came in to especially mention, it seems.) Um, er -- wouldn't you suck it up on the day you're interviewing and make an effort to impress instead of refusing to engage your potential co-workers at all? And is someone who can't be bothered to even try someone we want to employ?

File under: Things I don't get.

Oh, and JZ? I lived on Ensure, when eating was Proving Difficult.

I'm with you, Sparky. I don't get it. If I were in her position, I'd be asking all kinds of questions. I tend to be fairly private and assume others like to be, too, so I tend not to ask personal questions of my coworkers beyond, "Did you have a good vacation?"

But, asking impersonal questions about commutes, good neighborhoods to live in, the typical day at the library, the strangest request you've ever gotten, etc... I don't understand not doing that.

Kinda sounds like said candidate had already been assured she was a lock and didn't feel the need to try that hard.

What I don't get at all is why they ask your opinion and then tell you your opinion doesn't matter. Seems like that could be handled with more finesse.

On a very shallow note, all the heat last week activated my already oily face. I am now producing oil like a well. I even did a clay mask on Sunday. I need to do another tonight. It's just gross.

On the bright side, oily skin usually means less wrinkles.

What I don't get at all is why they ask your opinion and then tell you your opinion doesn't matter. Seems like that could be handled with more finesse.

It could, but finesse is not within the BigBoss' abilities. She rejected our choice last time, too, and while he's turned out to be better than I thought, it is (in part) because I don't have conversations with the other people in the office any more about things like TV. (He interrupted us once to say he never watches, and his wife watches too much so he's thinking of getting rid of the TV.) I have no complaints about his work, but I just don't think he's much fun to have around.

I suppose this could all be translated as: I want to be able to talk to the people with whom I work about something else besides work.

eta: ChiKat, speaking out of my oily face, I find that clay masks just send the message that my pores should produce more oil. Have you tried extra moisturizing to see if that sends the "Stop now!" message?