I think you're right, beth. Part of the problem may be that she felt embarrassed for saying something to the other guy. We usually go to the gym together at 2, it may just work itself out after that.

Also, why would you be interested in another part-time job? Does this one have more opportunity for advancement or the possibility of becoming full-time? Or, just time for a change? That's what I miss most about the Navy. I actually liked picking up every three years and moving somewhere else. It was like a new job every time even if it was the same.

sometimes putting feelers out helps even if you don't end up taking a new position

This is so true. I hope things improve for you one way or the other, GC!

Good luck with the interview, beth. It's good practice, if nothing else, and you can always talk to them about what you really want (ie, full-time) and if that should open up sometime down the road, they might remember.

Ugh, vw, landlord issues and Medicare difficulties all on the same day? Blech. Get through it, and stick to you guns, hon.

DH is talking to his boss today about the possibility of leaving. I am unaccountably nervous about it. It's not like there's really a possibility of a bad outcome - they'll either say "no, don't go" and offer him more money or "yeah, this remote thing isn't really working out" and he'll be able to take the other job with no guilt. And I don't have to do anything either way. Yet, I'm very tense. Stupid fight or flight response to implication of possible change.

Does this one have more opportunity for advancement or the possibility of becoming full-time?

Technically it is a bump up in position( Library Assistant II) - but it looks like the same job I have been doing. The initail posting looked full time, which is why I was interested. I am continueing more because I need interview experience and becuase I need to see if there are any possiblilities that I can find something full time without an MLS that will help me find a full time job. ( or my ideal job of 30 hours a week) It is also possible that it may have a few more responsiblities . While I don't hate what I do, my big responsibility is to show and on time and wait for someone to ask me a question. Everyother responsibility has come because I 've invented, begged,or volunteered. Actually, just recently( wihntin the last month or two ) there have been new things for me to do. Which makes it less likely that I will leave.

They usually just walk right in.

But - can you not simply change the locks? I don't know if the legal situation is different in the US, maybe? But in my last place (in Cairo), the landlady actively encouraged us to change the locks in order to ensure our privacy. And it was astonishingly simple to do. (Well, okay, Flatmate did it, because she liked doing the Stereotypically Bloke jobs, and I was quite happy to let her have fun. Still - we just bought a lock, took it home, she got a screwdriver and the whole lock-changing thing took less than 5 minutes.)

Surely they aren't allowed to just breeze in if you're a tenant? Because I would be all sorts of not happy about having people just wander into my flat, regardless of whether or not they owned the building. It's your home, it's where your stuff is - and there's the issue of personal safety, however nice the bloke might actually be.

New things to do is good.

I hope the kerfuffle blows over, Sail.

Surely they aren't allowed to just breeze in if you're a tenant?

No, they're really not. Legally, the bare minimum is that landlords must give tenants 24 hours' notice before entering their apartment.

Obviously there are exceptions for emergencies -- burst pipes, portal to Q'ortoth opened in your bathroom, etc. -- when they can come in without advance notice.

But if they're just showing up to fix non-emergency things, or if they're showing the apartment to a prospective tenant, they really are legally required to give the tenant 24 hours' notice.

And I must be a HUGE bitch, because if I were vw or Emily, the very first time that the landlord violated that, I would have been all over them, citing chapter and verse of whatever law it is in that state.

And the second time, I would have changed the locks or put in a slider chain my own damn self.

But I am, lest we forget, quite a bitch.

Most of my leases have had clauses saying the landlord/property manager had the right to enter in case of emergencies (so don't change the locks was implied, or maybe spelled out, can't remember), but I've never had that abused the way vw and Emily have.

Most of my leases have had clauses saying the landlord/property manager had the right to enter in case of emergencies (so don't change the locks was implied, or maybe spelled out, can't remember)

Right, but if you have a chain-slider lock, it can only be locked from the inside, meaning the tenant would be home, meaning if there was an emergency, the tenant could unlock it. And if there was an emergency when the tenant wasn't home, the chain wouldn't be locked, so the landlord could still get in.

I know that here landlords have to have access in case of an emergency, so changing the locks means you have to give them keys. But I know that they're supposed to give notice in advance for non-emergency access. I also know that this is something that some landlords ignore (I once came home to find muddy bootprints across my bedroom floor - never did find out what someone was doing in there).

Yeah, a chain would do the trick.

I once came home to find muddy bootprints across my bedroom floor

OMG, that would scare me to death.

Actually, that happened to my family once - my parents went out of town and my sister went to stay with a friend (she was in high school, I was away at cillege, my brother had moved out). She stopped by the house to get some clothing just before the folks came back, noticed the VCR was missing and wondered why mom & dad had taken it with them. When they got home they noticed the muddy footprints coming in from the garage. Apparently, someone had squeezed through the cat door into the garage, picked or broken the lock on the door between the garage and the house, and after all that work only taken the VCR.