'Lies My Parents Told Me'
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
I am the peacekeeper of the family and it is so fricking draining.
You know sometimes, Suzi, that isn't your job after all. Sometimes you just have to let the other people sort their own shit out, and let the friction and sparks just happen. Because it's no fun being the brake pad, and the other folks aren't going to learn how to deal with each other if you're doing all the work for them.
That's something I have to remind myself, anyway.
Tep, I'm particularly digging GothKitty and the Mermaid in your pictures.
Somehow I suspected you'd dig GothKitty. I'm a little surprised at the Mermaid, though.
I'm a little surprised at the Mermaid, though.
How come? I like Mermaids. Consider the sacrifice of the Little Mermaid's sisters.
ION, I'm not sure how I feel about Raq losing weight. She's already perfectly sexy and gorgeous and I'm not sure if you should mess with something like that.
HMOG our condo neighbors are total flakes and it is ANNOYING. OK, rant over.
I wish it were that easy, Hec. I really do. And I do make them hammer out a lot of their own stuff. But there are times where I am stuck in the middle and there is no other way out.
I'm a little surprised at the Mermaid, though.
How come? I like Mermaids. Consider the sacrifice of the Little Mermaid's sisters.
I dunno -- she's just all blonde and sunshine-y, not dark and goth and sexy in that mysterious might-be-deadly way.
Suzi - throw the guilt back. They know they are putting you in the middle .
" you are putting me in the middle. why do you want to hurt me?"
Suzi - throw the guilt back. They know they are putting you in the middle .I had to do that, Suzi. I had a total meltdown with my dad last year after a bunch of family drama. I had been the peacekeeper for six months and I was tired of it. He felt bad when I burst into tears on the phone.
Robin, do you know what kind of outpatient care she is receiving (is it for addiction or eating disorders, or both, or just general psychological/psychiatric care)?
AmyLiz makes a lot of sense. I think maybe a therapist/counselor who specializes in eating disorders is probably the way to go.
Some therapists/counselors who don't specialize in addiction don't understand it. I think the same is true with therapy for eating disorders.
Maybe the first step could be either talking to the people who are currently providing the outpatient care, and/or contacting your mom's own physician, and saying, "Please help me find me a doctor/therapist who specializes in eating disorders, for my teenaged granddaughter who is staying with me."
All the good thoughts in the world for your niece, your mom, and your whole family.
Good luck, Robin. I have no constructive advice, but I'm wishing you and yours much -ma.
(((SuziQ)))
I dunno -- she's just all blonde and sunshine-y, not dark and goth and sexy in that mysterious might-be-deadly way.
Well, crap. Now I want to go and get the hair dye.