I will put together a proposal for KC, but my acting as point for this is contingent on a mid-late June date. I got Prom, graduation (very Buffy comittments, eh?) and then a wedding.
For starters, tho, I THINK I could arrange Prom in the basement/club of a nice little gay bar that plays host to the local BDSM scenes monthly meetings. Cheap drinks, nice mixed clientele, sweet owner, and nothing we could wear would merit an astonished look.
39th street strip could provide a two block strip so that everyone could go en masse, and then decide where to eat: Cajun, Indian, Mongolian BBQ, sushi, dumplings, Vietnamese, Italian, and there's a liquor store and cigar/cig store I patronize with a pleasant musician owner.
Bus system is not excellent, but doable, and cabs are pretty cheap if you group it.
Excellent BBQ and jazz opps.
I could score us some cheap cases o' wine.
And there's me! Organizer of F2F #1!!!