I am curious about dap, too. Assuming ita's male co-workers don't go around giving each other Danish Americsn Princesses, which I feel pretty comfortable in assuming. That they don't.
ETA: Late post.
Wash: I'm not leaving her side, Mal. Don't ask me again. Mal: I wasn't asking. I was telling.
'Out Of Gas'
Natter 43: I Love My Dead Gay Whale Crosspost.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
JenP - Apr 06, 2006 1:51:07 pm PDT #9302 of 10001
§ ita § - Apr 06, 2006 1:53:48 pm PDT #9303 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
That's our hello dapping. There's also congratulatory ones that involve slapping each other's open hands and sliding the palms away with fingers wiggling.
And, boy, does it look dumb written down.
Strix - Apr 06, 2006 1:57:41 pm PDT #9304 of 10001
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
Nah, ita, my students give me daps all the time. It took me about 2 months to figure out which dap for which students. Major variation depending on age, sex and gang affliliation.
For me - and this is Only Me - flirting is not always with intent. I can comfortably flirt with a wide range of people, and it's rarely serious. Hitting on is much like (verbalizing) ita's "You. Let's." with a "Now" often added in.
I flirt with mushrooms. It's just fun. And I love to hug and be touchie-feelie with friends, but I am VERY my-FUCKING-bubble with people O don't know.
And air-kisses at work? EW. Ew. Ditto with hugs.
DavidS - Apr 06, 2006 2:22:14 pm PDT #9305 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
I'm with the whole loves-to-flirt crowd, and it's definitely about engaging with somebody at the level "Hey, you're sparkly and cool!" and not about intent.
I was going to say I don't really have crushes, but I certainly have a few Buffista crushes so that's not accurate.
But I don't pine. Well, I pined after JZ but I solved that by asking her to marry me.
Scrappy - Apr 06, 2006 2:26:43 pm PDT #9306 of 10001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Great solution, Hec.
I flirt in the "you are a mighty attractive* person and I sure am enjoying our badinage and I want you to know it" kind of way.
* And by attractive I mean, sexy, smart, funny, sweet, or any combination thereof.
shrift - Apr 06, 2006 2:26:49 pm PDT #9307 of 10001
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
I'm pretty sure no one's pining after me right now, which is just how I like it.
§ ita § - Apr 06, 2006 2:28:45 pm PDT #9308 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
I'm pretty sure no one's pining after me right now
You never know...
t cue ominous music and thunderclaps
Sue - Apr 06, 2006 2:29:54 pm PDT #9309 of 10001
hip deep in pie
Strix - Apr 06, 2006 2:31:01 pm PDT #9310 of 10001
A dress should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to flee from zombies. — Ginger
I'm pretty sure that "crushing" doesn't involve, you know, actual crushing....
§ ita § - Apr 06, 2006 2:36:31 pm PDT #9311 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
I think the flirting experts need to give seminars.
If you have no intention of getting together with the guy you're flirting with...be unafraid. Smile like he's the only one that can see you doing it. Laugh for him alone, unless you're laughing to show everyone how delighted he's making you. Touch him, and lightly, unless you're copping a feel, which you do with a wink and a smile. Tell him things so grandiose he knows they are lies, but so seductive that he wishes they weren't. Lean. Speak low. And touch him again.
Now, if you actually want him to sleep with you, I have no suggestions.