Flirting can be exhilarating fun. I can grab asses, pinch cheeks, and talk dirty without having to wonder about who likes who. But I only do it with guys I'm SURE wouldn't possibly hit on me. And guys I wouldn't hit on, myself.

If I like a guy, my flirt bone gets broken, and I find myself gasping for air when I think of it. So, instead, I just go with the flow and do whatever. No concern for escalation.

"FYI, your requests should really be directed to Department X in the future, since I'm leaving and will no longer be around to serve in the capacity of your butt-monkey."

I wish I could, but. This thing she's asking me to do? a) I already did it, just not how she wanted, b) I just don't want to do it because it would mean a lot of pissing about in Illustrator and Photoshop, and I wouldn't get it right the second time, and c) I'm not meant to be pissing about with this stuff because I'm not a designer, and d) I don't care to figure out who she should be sending it to, because hey, that's not my job.

(also, shrift, I kind of just posted a YnM drabble.)

Woo! I'm slammed with work, but I so don't care, so I'll have to head over to lj.

The difference is I enjoy flirting, but being hit on gives me the willies.

being hit on gives me the willies.

Did it before your husband? I like it when the guy's attractive, and dislike it intensely when he's not.

The difference is I enjoy flirting, but being hit on gives me the willies.

Even pre-marriage? Because the play/intent definition works if it wasn't.

Did it before your husband?

Yep. It's the difference between an "I WANT YOUR SEX" vibe and a "I think you're funny and pretty" vibe.

It's the difference between an "I WANT YOUR SEX" vibe and a "I think you're funny and pretty" vibe.

Ah. I draw a different line. I flirt with people it's fun to flirt with, but with whom I have no intent of sleeping with. They don't have to be pretty, and may not be that funny.

Being hit on means that I have the characteristics to sleep with or to be kissed or dated. Those might include pretty or funny. Depends on the hitter.

Well, now I have a George Michael earworm. Thanks a bunch.

George Michael: And I ask you, where was my butt? One full minute and not one shot of my butt! You saw it, I bloody wanted to kill the editor. It was shot of boot, then shot belt, bull fighter, hair, crowd, face, hat, bull, boot, hair. And I told them specifically that it was supposed to be butt shot, shot of the hair, back to the butt, hand, butt, hand, butt, hand, butt, belt, butt, beard, butt, belt, butt, earring, face, butt, butt, earring, hold on the butt, hold on the butt, it's a formula but it bloody works!

Yep. It's the difference between an "I WANT YOUR SEX" vibe and a "I think you're funny and pretty" vibe.

This might be why I've never really seen a difference between the two, as I've never been in an "I want your sex" mode with anyone I wasn't already involved with.