ION, I suck at asking for help.

My friend J offered to run to the grocery store for me. I keep cutting down the list, 'cause I feel like I'm imposing.

Sigh. 'Twas all too appropriate for me to roar into the thread yesterday with "gooood morning Vietnam!" cause I got shot down in flames and my claim was dismissed. I get nothing.

Evil ex-boss claimed that I had been overpaid and fraudulently did not inform them. Apparently it was my job to carefully check all the math. Also I had been overpaid because I had submitted two timecards for the same week. According to his calculations, I owed them $794. It's true that I did submit multiple copies of timecards. Bitch Wife wanted a lot of formatting changes and that was a long process over several weeks: portrait to landscape. Change the type size. Start listing exactly how long you spent on each task. Use Excel, not Word. Send me a .pdf, not a fax. Too bad for me that I didn't save printouts of each mail she sent.

He also said that even though the check stub says "Holiday Gift," I hadn't worked for them long enough to get a gift, so it was a business expense, and I failed to carry out my mission by shopping at the wrong place. I used my wonderful line about my regrets that the suit didn't meet expectations and he didn't even blink.

Therefore, although it is illegal in California to deduct funds from paychecks, it is sometimes all right if you paid the wrong amount or have expenses to recoup.

DH was stunned by the vast unpleasantness of the man and is still pleased with me for having said NO. Yay.

Now I am sad and humiliated and want either to get very drunk or maybe eat a quart of double-chocolate fudge death ice cream.

There's no reason to feel humiliated, Katie B. You stood your ground when many people would have just rolled over. You should feel proud.

Woo hoo, SA! Very impressive.

My friend J offered to run to the grocery store for me. I keep cutting down the list, 'cause I feel like I'm imposing.

Hon, she offered to help so perhaps you could let her decide what is imposing and what isn't... Maybe send her both lists (the original and the pared down) and let her know that it's totally up to her which one she does.

Katie, love, that fucking sucks and I'm very sorry you had to go through it. {{{{katie}}}

What Ginger done said.

AND you should get the booze and ice cream. And then some sex.

Oh, Katie, that SUCKS. I'm so sorry.

I just had some Wendy's. I couldn't finish it. YAY! Maybe my regular appetite is returning.

Oh, KatieBee, I am so sorry the hearing didn't go well.

I am a bit bewildered about what actually happened to make the hearing necessary, as I am a big old skipper and skimmer, but it sounds like you got a raw deal. I fope the humiliated feeling passes, as you have not earned it.

Well, I'm not sorry that I stood up for myself. (pats self on back) That was worthwhile and far better than quietly rolling over and turning the other cheek. I just didn't get the desired outcome where evil was punished and I received payment for all the hours I worked. Reckon I will have to be satisfied with having caused inconvenience.

Paging DH: Booty call! Shiny disco ball.

Oh, and, importantly: Thank You, Buffistas, for having helped make things feel a little better.

Paging DH: Booty call! Shiny disco ball.

Daaaaaamn right you get a bootycall.

Man should greet you at the door with Ben, Jerry, and Jose.

KB, I hope your former employer develops a painful rash in an inconvient place.

vw, I'm glad your real appetite seems to be coming back -- may other good things follow.

ION, my face is going to explode if the snot monster convention in my sinuses doesn't end soon. Blerg, I say, BLERG!