So, having said that, is the remix author likely to catch that post and be offended by it?
It's kinda funny you should ask that. Because after I was done whining, I thought that maybe I shouldn't have bitched about it so much, so publicly. But oh well. I don't think it's likely she would see it unless someone pointed her here and, if that happened, I think I'm more the one for her to be upset with rather than you.
are you considered a BNF in popslash?
Dude, I have no idea. I think I'm rather well-known in some circles [JC/Justin fans, for example, where they interviewed me for the writers site] and a lot of people on LJ know me. But I still feel like a new kid on the block. After all, I've only been writing in popslash for 18 months. Then again, I get a lot of hits and I get a lot of feedback. Though don't BNFs complain that they never get feedback? It's all so confusing.
I'm not entirely sure how one determines if they're a BNF anyway. Like, other people told me I was at the Bronze. But beyond the Bronze? No one knows who the hell I am. So I don't really feel like one in the general online Buffy community either.
I am totally a BNF in LunaSync slash circles though. Then again, there's only three of us in the circle. So we're all BNFs. *snerk*