I suppose that depends.

Ok, question two, what would a reasonable hourly rate be? I have no idea what tutoring runs.

The tutoring I've done, I'll generally quote either $40 or $35 an hour, but in some cases I'll go down to $25. Most grad students I know who tutor charge something similar; undergrads mostly charge in the $20-$30 range.

Fay, lots of work-out-for-the-best~ma.

Thanks on the tutoring advice.

The meeting went well. They took pages and pages of notes. In January we will go to their office to sign the paperwork for them to file.

C just grabbed the phone and has decided she is ready to call her dad regarding both Christmas and guardianship.... I gave her lots of hugs before she disappeared upstairs. I think I'm more nervous for her now that I was pre-meeting.

Ok, question two, what would a reasonable hourly rate be? I have no idea what tutoring runs.

I get paid $30 an hour, but my clients actually pay my agent something more like $65-75 an hour. The agency then pays me. It's a bit of a shaft, but at the same time I'm too lazy to find my own clients. This is also in NYC, where all things are expensive. Gershwin Girl actually has connections in Westchester (VERY nice suburb), and gets paid $130 an hour (!!) to tutor kids there.

All beside the point. As already said, your best bet is definitely to check with universities. $30 an hour is a reasonable expectation, you could probably get $25 from most undergrads, especially if you take K-Bug to them rather than them coming to you.

See if UC Berkeley has a Career Center or some such. Those often keep tutor lists - Caltech's did, though I never used it myself. They'll send your info to a mailing list, and you'll have poor, desperate undergrads fighting over your tutoring position.

C just grabbed the phone and has decided she is ready to call her dad regarding both Christmas and guardianship.... I gave her lots of hugs before she disappeared upstairs. I think I'm more nervous for her now that I was pre-meeting.

I am tasking myself with accomplishing enough things tonight so that my only goal tomorrow will be to go and see my grandma. I've just been in such a bad place that I haven't gone there and I feel like shit over it. Turns out the lung cancer (oh, and it is definitely cancer and started in her lungs) started all of this malignancy. And it will eventually kill her. I need to talk with my stepmom to get all of the details but that can wait until tomorrow. So I am plodding through Christmas shopping online and making my shopping list for my stepmom's birthday dinner on Friday so I can go see grandma tomorrow.

That was a little more of a vent than I meant to post.

Oof. What a tough year you've had, Cass.

Are you holding it together?

{{Cass}}

{{{Cass}}}

The conversation did not go well - not a surprise. C was only able to tell him about the guardianship. Christmas never had the chance to come up. C then called her mom and just got picked up to go have coffee and some mommy time. Mom has been supportive, so this is a good thing.

Are you holding it together?

Though I think I stopped about twenty minutes ago and am now wreckish. It's not the worst timing of the thing because while nothing else will get done tonight, I am exhausted and am going to head to a nap / very early night of sleep. I made a little bowl of pasta, am contentedly eating it and intend to doze off in a carb coma in just a few minutes.

My list will still be around tomorrow. I am certain of it.

Thank you.

MG, I am sorry that the conversation didn't go well. I am glad that Mom has been supportive during this difficult time. My thoughts are with you all right now.