Hey there, my lovelies - apologies for skipping some 300 posts. SO sorry to hear about your friend's experience, Empress - wishing them all health and heart-whole-ness in the wake of this fuckup.
So, yeah - not so much with the goodness on the Employer front in the world of me. But I've had a nice evening (singing in choir at the Christmas service at All Saints Cathedral, then going out for a couple of drinks with friends and fellow singers, during which we bumped into a friend who left Cairo last year and is now working in Thailand - but who has come back for Christmas. And then we sang carols all the way home. And I ate a peanutbutter cookie, even though I know it's just empty calories. Just because) and I'm choosing to subscribe to the "this is because there's something better out there that I'm meant to do/somewhere I should be/someone I should meet" school of hopeful fatalism.
'cause in this instance, I simply
haven't
done anything remotely sackworthy. At all. Even slightly. So they're being fuckwits of the highest order. And I don't want to work for fuckwits of the highest order.
...still not very cheering, though.
Oh, Aimee, that is just horrible. I am so sorry.
Fay, that is also horrible. Good grief.
Could we use some good news? My mom just accepted a job! Her contract was ending in January, and her employer has been treating her like crap, so she really wanted to leave on her terms. And she's going to be able to! She's gotten a job at one of the known best employers in New England. I'm so very happy for her.
I really don't understand what is going on over there Fay. It isn't that easy to find someone who is willing to stay and teach in a forgien country. They pay is never enough to be a great motivator and it isn't easy. My BIL didi it in Japan - and while he didi meet his wife there - being in rural Japan was not easy. so bizzare.
{{aimee's friend}}
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Fay - I just want to add Seattle to your list for consideration. Cause really nice town, climate has been described to me by my one Scottish acquaintance, as "like Scotland, except much warmer".
Yay for the mom of vw!
I'm sorry they are being stupidheads Fay. Florida is always looking for teachers! Don't believe the stories you hear about hurricanes. That's just propaganda to keep out the uncool people.
Ack, Fay, that's dreadful. I hope you find something wondeful right away.
MG, good luck with the visit, and don't panic. It will be over and taken care of soon.
FAY!! {{}} For the best~ma, love.
Yay, vw's mom!!!
In additional good news front, I got a raise today. Decent, not great. And a bonus. Well, I'll get the bonus with my Jan. 13 paycheck, but it's nice. Verra nice.
Aimee...how incredibly, what everyone else has said. Just awful. Much healing ~ma to your friend. Jeez.
Fay...just as awful, on a different level. The one time I got fired, it was seriously one of the best things to ever happen to me. I hope the same will be true for you. And if they are doing it for reasons other than YOU, which it seems like, I recommend milking the guilt angle for every great rec. letter, bonus, assistance you can get. Worked for me!
Yay vw's mom. On one's own terms is always a great leaving point.
Which brings me to being bitter, bitter, bitter today. Bitter. That's the word.
I'm about to whine major...can't help myself...poor impulse control. Move along, nuthin' to see here...
You know what really crawls up my crack? Being the honest one with the great communication skills and clear enough self-awareness to admit and make restitution for my own mistakes. Being honorable simply does not pay in our society...at least not as regularly as I goddam like it to.
Want to know why I'm bitter about being that person? Cuz it makes me an easy target for the myopic, notabletoseetheirownshite, asshats among us whose fingerpointing trigger only has one direction. Anywhere but in!
I've been bending over backwards to assist a certain someone in growing their business, covering their mistakes along the way, being supportive and respectful even when this person's friends(as described by the asshat in question) rag about their behaviors and, in general, talk shit about the person.
I've been all...'let's be respectful...let's talk TO the person not ABOUT the person...I see problems, I fix them, blah, blah, blah.
Turns out, the joke has been on me.
Can't seem to catch a break with this person, no matter how good I am. And my holiday bonus? After putting in 50% more time than requested, for crap wages (self-employed crap wages, so basically, crap - 50% = REALLY crap), and taking endless personality related guff...my holiday bonus? Roughly the same as the postman. Now, MAD props to postal carriers, I seriously could not do that job, and it was me that recommended we take care of him in the first place, but PULEEZE.
AND, I discover, through a very weird karmic fluke, that the asshat's spouse is dumping said asshat...the asshat calls in another employee (who didn't know) and tells HER to tell me to keep my mouth shut. Wow.
I'm so ready to tell 'em to cram it where the sun don't shine...and yet? I'd feel dishonorable jumping ship on the rest of the team, who are really nice, hardworking people.
Sweet weeping Moses, I'm bitter. And really mad at myself.
t /sorry for the useless whine.
eta: Wow. Doubly sorry for killing the thread.
