d, yuck and yuck. But the "wanting more out of life" is a HUGE thing. Good luck.
Mal and I survived the store...he got a girlfriend (a little girl in a pink ski suit about his age and he "talked" for long minutes). I didn't tell her that he eats cat food. I was shivering and sweating and coughing and hating life when we got back.
I was just reminded of a situation a friend had a few years ago that reminds me of Daniel's work thing. (Was that English? I can't tell thru the Snot Monster). My friend came this close to getting fired (he actually got fired, protested it, and was moved to a different office) for having a sig file on his email of "There's a fine line between stupid and clever." A woman (black and middle-aged, and I don't know if that is relevant other than an assumed unfamiliarity with Spinal Tap and the EEO knee-jerk by HR) thought he was calling her stupid, complained, and he was called in and dismissed.
Anyway. He quit shortly thereafter and has a much better job now.