I gave her everything... jewels, beautiful dresses -- with beautiful girls in them.

Spike ,'Sleeper'


Natter 41: Why Do I Click on ita's Links?!  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Jesse - Dec 29, 2005 3:33:53 pm PST #5992 of 10002
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

shrift, this might sound really stupid, but a thing the career lady at my school does is make us make a list of PARS -- I'm pretty sure it's Problem, Action, Result, Skill. So you think about specific things you've done and what skills they show. (I'm pretty sure the "problem" can also just be an opportunity.) Having to think of a lot of them (she wants 20) is really helpful, because even when you think you're scraping the bottom of the barrel, it helps to be really concrete about your skills. In the workshop I was in, there were people who had little or no work experience, and they could still come up with things that deomonstrated skills. And that's what you really need to have on tap to feel comfortable in a job interview.


sarameg - Dec 29, 2005 3:44:49 pm PST #5993 of 10002

See, I'm ok with the concept of job interviews (had more of them than dates, but still not a lot) because for them, it's ok to act. Ok, shouldn't act like you know what you do not, but in some ways it is a role. A spill-your-skillset role, but still. Being a professional whatever is a role to me. I'm going to try not to do that with people I'm trying to build some kind of personal relationship with. Stakes are higher, I guess.

That said, many of my funny holy-hell-how-did-I-end-up-here situations have been initiated by me consciously putting on an act at the getgo. But they were going nowhere anyway.


Almare - Dec 29, 2005 4:00:40 pm PST #5994 of 10002
"My drink preference does not indicate my sexual preference. "

Hey, Buffistas, um , I need dog help. My friend Mel just dropped off her dog at my place for the night because of some business to take care of in Orlando. It's not the first time that Daisy, the dog, has been here. However, this is the first time she's started a non stop fest of whine. Any one know a trick to help her with her abandonment issues?


Jesse - Dec 29, 2005 4:08:26 pm PST #5995 of 10002
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

I don't know anything about dogs, sorry.

I do have a nomination for Comeback of the Year: Fresca! Love it.


Allyson - Dec 29, 2005 4:14:02 pm PST #5996 of 10002
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica

Damn. For the first time in a long time, I wish i had a scarf.


tommyrot - Dec 29, 2005 4:15:00 pm PST #5997 of 10002
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.

Bah.

I missed most of the "dating sucks, and what the heck is it anyway?" discussion. I even went to a cafe that had WiFi after work and got dinner, but their WiFi wasn't working.

Once there was a woman I had a big crush on, but she didn't feel the same way about me. We hung out together as friends for a while. Once she told me that she admired my approach to dating - that I didn't follow all the dating norms. She said that she needed to follow them to feel comfortable with what was going on or something.

Her comment was interesting - up until that point I never thought of myself as "not following the dating rules."


Theodosia - Dec 29, 2005 4:15:24 pm PST #5998 of 10002
'we all walk this earth feeling we are frauds. The trick is to be grateful and hope the caper doesn't end any time soon"

Almare, I'd play with the dog. Play Fetch, take her for a long walk, cuddle with her, feed her some dog treats. Anything to distract her from missing her "parents."


brenda m - Dec 29, 2005 4:15:28 pm PST #5999 of 10002
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there

Does she have some sort of treat that she likes? Dogs are pretty distractable with food. You might trying taking her out of the room with the door, too. Otherwise, just do what I suspect you're already doing - talk to her, pet her, the works. How big a dog? I might suggest a walk, but especially with a larger dog, I'd be leery of doing that in case she managed to get away.


Topic!Cindy - Dec 29, 2005 4:17:23 pm PST #6000 of 10002
What is even happening?

Her comment was interesting - up until that point I never thought of myself as "not following the dating rules."

Did she give you any how-so info, as to how your approach was different?


tommyrot - Dec 29, 2005 4:21:37 pm PST #6001 of 10002
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.

Did she give you any how-so info, as to how your approach was different?

No. (Not that I can remember, anyway.)

Maybe it was how I don't approach every woman I'm interested in by immediatly flirting and what-not. That's just a guess.

I guess Xander would say I play my cards close to my chest....