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'Objects In Space'


Natter 40: The Nice One  

Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.


Steph L. - Nov 16, 2005 6:48:57 pm PST #4784 of 10006
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine

Can anyone give me a link to the film clip of the kid lipsyncing to the foreign song that was all over the net a while back? It woul dbe much appreciated.

Robin, here: [link]


Lee - Nov 16, 2005 6:50:19 pm PST #4785 of 10006
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.

Thanks, Emily! I will send something to your profile address in a moment, with an explanation.


Allyson - Nov 16, 2005 6:53:50 pm PST #4786 of 10006
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica

The internets are too quiet. I need to go pick a fight. Anyone know anyone who needs a fight picked?


Emily - Nov 16, 2005 7:09:53 pm PST #4787 of 10006
"In the equation E = mc⬧, c⬧ is a pretty big honking number." - Scola

Replied, Perkins. That what you need?


Lee - Nov 16, 2005 7:14:38 pm PST #4788 of 10006
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.

That was it-- thanks!


Matt the Bruins fan - Nov 16, 2005 7:24:11 pm PST #4789 of 10006
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand

Tom, while I'm no expert, I think therapy must be like physical healing in that it will progress at different rates for different people. What's most important is that there is progress. Hugs to you.


beth b - Nov 16, 2005 7:47:22 pm PST #4790 of 10006
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!

If you want to establish credit - you have to have debt. so paying the card off in ful every month - does not do it. ( a friend of mine buying a car learned this the hard way) Leave some amont on your card every month- with plans to pay it all by x. then do it agian. Yes, you wil pay interest, but oddly, paying down debt actually proves you can handle debt. Crazy.

note: I am not a credit consuelor , nor do I play one on tv


Scrappy - Nov 16, 2005 7:49:54 pm PST #4791 of 10006
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

Thank you, Teppy!


beth b - Nov 16, 2005 7:56:08 pm PST #4792 of 10006
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!

now, everything I am reading on line tells me that you should pay it all off. I am confused. my friend with only the paid of credit card for credit - got the car laon at 13. 5% our loan at the the same time with a deeper credit history and debt was under 7. and since it was the same dealer and finace co - we got what we thought was the answer. hmm....


Kristen - Nov 16, 2005 8:04:46 pm PST #4793 of 10006

beth, everything is dependent on your FICO score, which looks at several factors: length of credit, ratio of outstanding debt to lines of credit, payment history (do you pay on time? do you pay more than the minimum? do you make extra payments even when there isn't a payment due?) and types of credit (house loans look better than revolving debt).

One of the pieces of advice I was given was not to jump from credit card to credit card. For example, people who take those 0% for a year cards and use them until the year is up and then close the accounts? They don't look so good on paper because they constanly have only "new" credit lines.

Now here's the trick with paying off your card every month. Your credit report doesn't immediately get updated when you pay something off. It can take up to 60 days for the credit bureaus to catch up to reality. (Longer if you're say...me, who battles with them often because I haven't lived in NY in six fucking YEARS, despite what they keep telling people.)

If you have a 6,000 line of credit and you use up 5,000 but you pay it off when the bill comes due? When they run your report, it could very well still show that you have a 5k balance.

It's all very complex and murky and tends to make my head hurt. Which is why I'm glad I have a card now that lets me monitor my credit score. Otherwise, I would have no flipping clue.