I have to work really hard to not point out that my hair isn't All About Her.

Maybe that's one of the places where you don't need to work so hard. I mean really, what would it hurt to say that?

True, but it's not even worth it.

t smacks people for sumi

God, still can't get over the chick on Dr. Phil that won't give blow jobs and calls it disgusting.

I dated a guy who absolutely did not want a blow job. (He had issues. Oh boy, did he EVER have issues.)

But if you love him, don't you love his dick?

I feel like devil's advocate girl today -- I'm sure it's the migraine and the lack of cocoa talking -- but there may be guys using similar lines to justify a dirty sanchez or something else I consider outside my own personal portfolio. Most of us have boundaries. Most of us don't love every cell of our partner's body or excreta thereof to do everything with it. It's her and her boyfriends problems where her line falls.

I have no problem with people having physical attribute preferences (umm...except when somebody I like doesn't prefer ME) but I wonder if some of the guys who say they don't want their wife/girlfriend's hair to be short don't really want it to be long because they dig long hair but because they worry about what being with a short-haired womans says about them .

Like they don't want other people to think that their woman is real butch or something. (Not that I think AT ALL that short hair = butch. Just that some of these dudes might.)

t thinks about adding two cents to BJ convo

t sits quietly

I know plenty of women who have mustache/beard issues and much prefer men with/without. It's the guy's face, but they are the one's looking at it. I don't want someone telling me how to look, but I understand that certain style choices may be real hot buttons. If the BF grew one of those goofy Amish beards with no mustaches, I would find him less sexy. If he asked, I would say so.

Dave gets a nervous look on his face if I say I am going to cut my hair because he loves it long, but he is always quick to add that it is my hair and I can do whatever I want with it.

I have no problem with people having physical attribute preferences (umm...except when somebody I like doesn't prefer ME) but I wonder if some of the guys who say they don't want their wife/girlfriend's hair to be short don't really want it to be long because they dig long hair but because they worry about what being with a short-haired womans says about them .

I think a similar issue might be women who REFUSE to date a men shorter than they are and are simply appalled at the thought.

My hair choices are all about myself. I've had long hair, up until this last year, all my adult life. It always felt like "me. " My hair had always been babyfine but very thick, too slippery to hold headbands, barrettes, clips, pins, product or perms. Everything fell out. If I wore it long I could knot it up and out of my way. If I cut it short it fell in my face. It grows down in all directions from my crown, and will not be "trained" to fall any other way. Wearing it long and letting it do it's straight, slick thing was simpler than all the fussing and twiddling and trying to get it to do Other.

When it started thinning dramatically, not only from breakage, but from just not as much hair growing in as was falling out, wearing it long just became very ugly. Also, there were developments in product that made them actually have a lasting effect on my hair. So I went shorter. And shorter still, and then with layers around the face. And finally I wanted to see what I'd look like with short-short hair, and have that experience. Which I had for nearly a year. But I've wondered whether there might be more flattering styles that would be manageable and maintainable, so I've been letting it grow out a bit, so a stylist will have a bit more to work with.

I actually have missed having the feeling of movement in my hair--two-inches or shorter doesn't allow much for that. So another week or two, and I think I'm going to surrender to a stylist and see what happens. I don't think I'll be growing it out past shoulder length again, though. Certainly not anytime soon.