miserable, ill-behaved kids I'd ever encountered

Probably because of the "no limits". I know that with both my kids, they may not like the limits but they know them and they are enforced.

I'm 48 and cutting wasn't that common, or if it was we didn't talk about it in the bathroom. Of course, this was during the early to mid-70's so not being a virgin was BIG NEWS.

As far as parental smothering, I'm seeing more of it now. One parent in my youngest's class asked for their child to re-tested for GATE because they didn't feel that the child was at their best that day. This parent was frantic because their child didn't qualify for GATE - I can't imagine being that kid.... what pressure.

Gifted, right? I was Gifted and Special...shifting expectations, much?

It is very easy to just put on the cruise control and float through primary/secondary school without reading a book or studying, esp. if the school's purpose is less about educating and more about self-preservation and order-keeping. Then you hit college and have no study habits... and you end up being me.

YPSMV.

My high school was an IB school, back when there were only two in the state. We were a tight-knit group of kids all working very hard at one-upping each other for bragging rights. Despite my natural love of slacking, I found my love of winning was stronger, and thus I developed actual study skills.

I managed to lose my study habits in college, because I didn't need them there, and because without competition, there was no real incentive for me to give a damn about material I already pretty much knew.

As it was, however, they seemed to blame everything that's gone wrong with people in the last twenty years to modern parenting trends.

X years ago, "they" blamed everything going wrong to modern parenting trends, where X is any number between 0 and, oh, 2 million.

I mean, ten years ago we were still going on about the "plague" of teenage mothers. Now, the number of teenage mothers has fallen significantly, so it's on to something else to complain about.

I mean, hell, Seattle Public Schools are trying to ban "freak dancing." Fifty years ago, they wouldn't show Elvis' hips on TV for fear he'd drive teenage girls to get pregnant and/or cut themselves and/or play Doom. 250 years ago, it was the waltz making women wanting to get freaky and men wanting to shoot up their pedagouges and fellow students with blunderbusses.

YPSMV

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erika, yup GATE in So Cal = Gifted and Academically Talented Education. My daughter was in GATE, I feel badly now because while it pushed and challenged her, now she's headed to AP classes in high school with a ton of extra homework which is good for college and stuff but the poor kid ends up doing homework until 10 every night. I tell her it's preparing her for college but I don't think she appreciates my humor.

I was Gifted and Special

And while I'm on a roll:

Dylan, I spotted you walking down Pacific two days past, when we were turning around so that Paul could go fetch his phone from his office. (There was no time to do that usually pointless and confusing to the person on the street window rolldown and shout, however.)

I probably wouldn't have heard you. I'm usually wearing my iPod when I'm walking on Pacific, since that's the walk to/from West Campus Garage.

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Public School. So, close!

I always think it was sad that, while I was one of those freakish Profoundly Gifted children, it was balanced out by my being Profoundly Lazy. If it wasn't for the latter, I'd totally be World Dominatrix of Everything or something!

(Of course, if it wasn't for the former, I'd have never got away with the latter.)

I am OK with Annabel going to public school, but I'm afraid she'll never get pushed and prodded by her teachers and peers to be the intellectual superstar we all know she's going to be

Lot of public school teachers here. Just saying. I've switched over to private school this year just because of the nature of the move, and I guarantee you that I challenged the hell out of my students just as much last year as I do this year. Same for both of my 37 year+ public school teaching parents.

In terms of the rest, the article may not reflect the research she's done as well as it could, but she's been researching for more than five years, in person and using integrated statistics. Eh. I'm not her publicist, but I was impressed having been in these trenches for almost a decade.

And yes, it is that bad. Case in point (and this is one of many): today one of my students didn't have a take-home quiz that was due. Her mother had medicated her last night at 8 because she was "overwhelmed". I sent a student/parent email expressing my concern and have since spent nearly an hour emailing back and forth with them as they try to take care of the problem for her.

Belated thanks for the ~ma. Today seems particularly difficult, which I blame on PMS or the extreme weather change or something. I have an ongoing concern from now until it gets resolved or the end of the year, whichever comes first, and it's been manageable but today was just hard, and I'm ready to stop this so incredibly useless crying. Thank God for wine.

Glad to hear Jilli's surgery went well, and happy birthday!

Annabel is very cute.

vw will do well on her bio exam because she's the bug that could.

If I missed anything I apologize.