Betsy, that stinks. When I was growing up we had band at school and music lessons elsewhere. (We "got" to pick one instrument at the music studio, and a different instrument for school.) Our studio had private lessons, and part of that fee also went towards participation in various ensemble groups. Maybe there's an option like that for you? Even if you can sweet-talk the teacher into actually helping, an outside group might be useful.
I have to stop looking at that antique dress website because I want things and I can't afford them. Should I ever get married I so want this. I'm pretty sure it would even fit! There were flapper dresses too! (Although the one I would want is sold, alas.)
Hopefully all those facing life changes (divorce, job changes, daycare, etc) can get through them somewhat smoothly. {{}} to you all.