If people just stopped *needing* things from me, there'd be no problem

Ah, see, I'm my problem. I need too many things from me, and that sets off a chain reaction I can't quite control, and can't quite pull out of.

People stopping needing things from me would be nice, but it'd be stopgap, at best. I need to learn to take care of myself properly, or someone to step in and pick up the slack for just a little while. Uhuh, right.

Yikes, Gud. She stopped paying and didn't tell you? Can you talk to her spiritual guide at her church? I mean, this puts your kids at risk, which is really scary and does sound like depression.

Gud, I hate to pile any worse news on you, but I'd start looking for credit cards you don't know about. Seriously, I've seen someone lose his house, his car and have to take out massive loans because of the wife's spending habits. Loans he's still paying off, even though they're divorced. I hope you don't find any, but it's so easy to conceal that kind of thing.

{{{Gud}}} I hope you find some peace soon.

La Tep, no punctuation, but here's to a little equilibrium.

Are secret credit cards the sort of thing that Gud could find by getting a copy of his credit report?

Gud -- I'm sorry things have been this crappy. I hate being in that situation -- bills late etc. Of course, when I do it, it's all my own fault.

Gud, you probably should get credit reports on your and her SS#s. At least they will tell you if there's something else out there that she hasn't paid. (Free credit report site - [link]

That's a good question, sumi. I'm not sure.

I don't think she'd do anything like that. I think the mystery is a string of one time health care costs and homeschooling supplies.

Oh, yeah, I can see where health care can definitely eat into the budget. It's scarey how expensive stuff that can be considered basic is. That's good, though, Gud. Better to know where it went than where it might have gone.

Ugh, Gud. It does sound like her depression to me, too. May there be a breakthrough.