Aims, the situation sucks all around, but go. I've managed to avoid a few such trips, and while it was what I desperately wanted to do at the time, I really regretted it -- and I've also gone on some, and ended up remembering it as very precious time spent.

All my love is with your whole family.

Thanks guys.

I know in the long run I'll be happy I went. But right now, well, my grandparents dying was NEVER AN OPTION. And now, it is. And it pisses me off.

I'm a total cow. I've been luckier than most to have had my grampa for 31 years. But dammit, I'm NOT READY.

Aw, hon. I have no grands left, and it's still NOT AN OPTION. I so completely get you.

I don't think you're ever ready, when it's someone you love.

And echoing Betsy's assessment of brenda's brilliance. This especially:

Just let people know what you're doing - stay a bit flexible in case you pick a bad moment, but don't try to make it a big discussion of can/can't, should/shouldn't.

{{{Aimee}}}

What they said.

{{Aimee}}

brenda's advice is very, very good. Keep yourself flexible, remember you don't have to do everything that everyone else does.

I'll keep you in my thoughts.

{{{{{Aims}}}}

{{Aimee}} So sorry you have to face this. Strength and love to you.

I don't wanna go.

God damn, why did this just hit now.

Your staying home won't keep him alive. And it hit just now because you've been working very hard at not freaking but now you will sit still for five hours on a damn plane.

Aww, Aimee... best to you and your family. Pay lots of attentions to the details you want Em to know. what the house looks like , what it smells like and what Em likes to do . There are reasons you are going and it isn't just a death watch.

( I'm meraing by memeory)

Dylan, thank you for the apology.

I'm glad I never saw the actual post, because I get seriously judgemental when it comes to harsh language. I have the proper new england language background ( only the uneducated use that word) and the southern language background ( only those people use those words) . I'm not as clean mouthed as my parents, but I am very rarely truely foul.

BTW, I am sending general ma~~ in the direction of Susan and Dylan. You guys have had a tough tyear.

and sending general ma~~ to maidengurl's family - still.

I'd like to have a better handle on my money issues. Mostly they are around debt. I can accept car and house. CC debt kills me. drives me absolutely crazy. If it all went away I would probbably end up with some. But something I could put a cap on. and say no travel or shopping until the brake bill is paid for. But there isn't a lot of extra. and yet I know if the cc debt was gone, I would find another money issue to worry about. ptui.

this post has been interrupted 3x by people trying to tell me how to vote on various propsitions. Believe me a phone from a recording will not change my mind.