Susan, I don't think you are incompetent. And I have no doubt of your love for Annabel. And I have no doubt that you are doing your best.

But I do think that the issues that you have, of your own admission and talking about here, are coloring your viewpoints on Annabel's development.

Lord knows, I am not the World's Best Mom. And I don't try to be and there are several things I need to learn. But you are talking about pre-emptive PLASTIC SURGERY on an 18 month old.

And Gris, I appreciate your viewpoint, however, as we have all discussed, when we post something here, we discuss it. All viewpoints. I am not calling Susan names, I am not being intentinally rude. I am trying to discuss this her.

Even MORE importantly, Annabel does NOT read Bitches

As far as we know...

Susan, you're not a bad mom at all. You know that. It's okay to wonder and worry -- I know I do about my kids from time to time, even the 14-year-old. Maybe especially the 14-year-old. Parenting is tough, because kids don't come with their own instruction manual.

And I gotta say, Aimee, I agree with Gris on this. Susan and you may have different parenting and posting styles, but I know Susan loves Annabel every bit as much as you love Em, and right now she's worried about Annabel's speech. And I think worries like that are natural from time to time for someone who's doing this the first time around.

AmyLiz, I appreciate your sayng so. I have no doubt Susan loves Annabel and wants the best for her.

But you are talking about pre-emptive PLASTIC SURGERY on an 18 month old.

It's not plastic surgery. It's a quick procedure that's routinely performed on infants so that they can eat. Had it been more severe, it probably would have been done as a matter of course when she was still a newborn.

(Yes, I do spend a lot of time lurking at breastfeeding forums.)

It's a quick procedure that's routinely performed on infants so that they can eat.

Yes, Joe had it done when he was a newborn.

What is a tongue-tie? The membrane under the tongue is too big?

Yes, Joe had it done when he was a newborn.

That dude from Kiss did it to himself with a peanut butter knife! By accident!

Or, umm, so I seem to recall from the Playboy interview with his woman.

Aimée, your comments read like lecturing and accusation, not discussion, neither of which I think are justified, at least based on anything I've ever seen posted on this board.

A peanut butter knife?

A PEANUT BUTTER KNIFE?????

Oh good Lord. Fucking OW.