That's always a treat, Perkins.

I just refolded my sari. Party plans tonight were cancelled. I have a friend whose social circle and mine don't intersect -- so when she invites me to a party she's not throwing, when she gets stuck out of town, I don't need to dress up as a dead person.

Instead I can curl up with Spooks series 4 and pretend to be preparing for my teaching evaluation tomorrow. And then assisting on the green belt test. And then the big krav dinner.

Calculations put me at 11.5 hours with krav people tomorrow. Someone, anyone, could die. It's like a Minear/Whedon production.

I don't need to dress up as a dead person.

Do you when she is in town?

Do you when she is in town?

Only for her birthday. It's not like I'm some sort of sicko.

ita, I needed you today!

This is the second time I wanted to trot you out as an example this week!

Today's convo was about violence as an American tradition. One of the 4 men in the room said, ""Women are less violent than men."

"Wha! I beg to differ!"

And I laid the smackdown on him. For example, studies show that women hit their husbands at much the same rate as men hit their wives, though with less success. though I hear they are apt to use common household items as weapons; the most common being the phone.

Then I pointed out that women are excellent at exacting violence within the social realm. It just doesn't look the same as physical violence, though it can be devasting just the same.

Then he tried to trot out that he was talking about physical violence and how, since women have less testosterone than mine they eschew physical violence.

I think you should come with me one day to a meeting and kick him in the head.

Were you going to be a particular dead person, or just dead in general?

women hit their husbands at much the same rate as men hit their wives

Very interesting. I think women probably hit each other less often than men hit each other, but still.

It's funny -- I do think the best women at krav are exceptions -- but not to their gender. They're exceptional, end of story. It's not that statistically anomalous, I swear, just to fight. Lots of guys don't want to either.

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Were you going to be a particular dead person

Indira Gandhi, hence the sari. Off the hook of tastelessness!

the most common being the phone.

The phone? Interesting. Wonder why? I suppose it's portable but has some heft, it's often close at hand... I guess for me (if I were going to hit anyone, which I'm not likely to) it'd probably be a book, but not everyone has books to hand, while almost everyone (in the US, at least) does have phones.

Kat! I feel so close to you right now.

Very interesting. I think women probably hit each other less often than men hit each other, but still.

Yeah, probably

There's also a greater stigma for a man to report domestic violence than a woman.

And the physical effects of being hit by most women aren't the same as the physical effects of being hit by most men, I'd assume.

Which is a roundabout way of saying injuries caused by violence are most often caused by men. And the victims of that violence, statistically, are most often other men. Yet injuries caused by the violence TO women are also most often caused by men.