For the others, someone who is reflective would be like, "He hates me. What did I do wrong?" and would open the door to doubt.

Huh. I don't want to be led by either of your examples. I want to be led by "He hates me. I continuously examine my actions, their effects and their motivations. Does this add new data? Aha."

Sometimes people hate you for a reason, sometimes they don't. Sometimes they may even hate you for a good reason, but your course shouldn't be altered. Self-reflection shouldn't break that, or it's a piss poor kind of reflection.

oh, poor plei. you deserve bacon and eggs. maybe after pumping?

I will have bacon and eggs tomorrow. That way, I don't have to be the one cooking them.

You know...is there something after clusterfuck? What other words are available?

I want to be led by "He hates me. I continuously examine my actions, their effects and their motivations. Does this add new data? Aha."

Pass the word: ita wants Sabermetricians to rule the world!

Huh. I don't want to be led by either of your examples.

Well, I was describing extremes on purpose. The "What did I do wrong?" kind of reflection is sort of what is called depressive rumination, where stewing on a mistake magnifies it to global "I suck" proportions. Whereas, "He hates me. Asshole." is the thought-process of a sociopath.

hippie woowoo might be the best phrase ever.

YAY sociopath Choose sociopath.

The Nathan Fillion story has charmed the pants off of me. Damn, that guy's cute.

I just waited over an HOUR to get into my scheduled OB appointment (that's ONE HOUR AFTER I was supposed ot see him). I'm just glad I dragged DH to the office visit with me or I would have been really bored all alone. Doc gets a pass because he was delivering a baby.

Bacon and eggs sounds good. We may have that for dinner tonight.

Nathan Fillion is a fabulous man. msbelle is equally fabulous.

And speaking of, I just woke up from a nap (I'm a student again now! I can nap! Huzzah!) wherein Kevin Sorbo was so impressed by Serenity that he decided to get an Andromeda film made. Why does my brain hurt me so?

ita wants Sabermetricians to rule the world!

If that's what you call someone who looks within and without when making decisions, I certainly do. Mostly I just call them thoughtful or reasonable.

The "What did I do wrong?" kind of reflection is sort of what is called depressive rumination

I think it's not useful to use it as a prediction of self-reflective behaviour. And if it's not an inherent characteristic of this mindset, I'm still not seeing the downside.

So how does that work?

Either hippie woowoo or hormone stimulation. Take your pick.

What's in the tea, that stimulates the hippie woowoo (love this!) or hormone stimulation, Plei?

I just waited over an HOUR to get into my scheduled OB appointment (that's ONE HOUR AFTER I was supposed ot see him). I'm just glad I dragged DH to the office visit with me or I would have been really bored all alone. Doc gets a pass because he was delivering a baby.

UGH! I told you I walked out of my first ever OB appointment when pregnant with Ben, right?

Bacon and eggs sounds good. We may have that for dinner tonight.