Ugh.

A funny:

We went to a wedding on Sunday. The Bride walked down the aisle to the Them from Angel. I leaned over to Joe and said, "Do they not realize Buffy kills him like, 4 times?"

I think I'm borderline Asperger's. I find it difficult to make eye contact (so I pretty much never do) and am often oblivious to others' emotional states. Plus I have some other stuff, like social anxiety. Or maybe I'm just weird. But then, I took an online test that said I have AS so it must be so....

The problem with online tests for such things (other than the obvious) is that they don't differentiate between can't and won't.

I can go to parties and socialize and interact with the other humans, but by and large, I prefer not to. That's not Aspergers, that's just me being a curmudgeon.

The problem with online tests for such things (other than the obvious) is that they don't differentiate between can't and won't.

They also assume a certain degree of awareness of/perspective about your own social abilities that some of us lack. Which is why I routinely get in the low teens on those EQ tests.

hugs to all. not a good day, but everyone seems to have a plan and know where they are going with it all. so sending out the ma~~~ for smoothness and sucess.

and yay for Cali's mom.

I have a cousin who was diagnosed with Asperger's pretty young. He went to normal school but had an aide, and now attends a performing arts high school and seems to do well at the things he is interested in. Once my aunt learned how to work around some of the things that were challenging to him, like overstimulation, he was able to learn to communicate. He had a difficult time with language or any sounds if there were other noises in the background, for example. His brain couldn't process both at the same time.

A few years later, another cousin (same side of my family, different parents) started showing signs of autism, one of the main problems being almost no speech at all well into toddlerhood. Once she got to be 2, I believe, various family members started to tell her parents that she should be tested, and they refused. Instead they went into full denial mode and stopped speaking to anyone who implied there was something "wrong." Now we are told that she speaks just fine and it totally normal, although no one has actually witnessed any of it. She was also doing a lot of spinning, and staring at lights, no idea if that has stopped.

Long story short, way better to find out now, and end up like my highly functioning cousin than the one in denial.

Here is an online test for Asperger's. Unfortunately, it's a sucky test, in that clicking on 'Calculate Score' produces an error - you have to do it manually (although they give you the info to do that).

eta: link would be nice, huh? [link]

That's not Aspergers, that's just me being a curmudgeon

Yeah, that's me. If I care to, I can turn on the charm and work a room like nobody's business, but generally I don't care to.

More good Mom news! Dad just called. Mom's feeding tube and other tubes have all been removed. And she was able to walk 5 steps from her wheelchair to the car, and then get herself situated in the car--twice! (It was a dry run for Dad taking her home.) And she's definitely going home this Thursday.