Cindy, I'm so sorry. I'm also profoundly grateful he was not at the wheel.

Lots of hugs and love to your whole family.

Thanks, Trudy. And I know what you mean about the driving. I like his wife so well, too. I don't know how close to home they were, or anything, or where she is, right now.

We have few details. My m-i-l got the call from one of her sisters. Her sister is babysitting for her own daughter's kids, because the daughter's dh is in the hospital having surgery, today. Daughter's dh's name is the same as M-i-l's brother's name. When m-i-l first heard, she thought her sister's s-i-l had died.

Okay, that's way too many in-laws. Done now.

{{{Cindy and DH and family}}}

Calli, that is wonderful news about your mom!

juliana, good luck tonight. My DH and I had a habit of fighting right after our sessions -- someone always felt a little raw when we got in the car and we didn't know how to STOP talking after we walked out of the office. It's just something to keep in mind -- you or Z might need to call a time out and process.

juliana, good luck tonight. My DH and I had a habit of fighting right after our sessions -- someone always felt a little raw when we got in the car and we didn't know how to STOP talking after we walked out of the office. It's just something to keep in mind -- you or Z might need to call a time out and process.

Scott and I took a marriage course at our church. It's produced by the Anglican church, but isn't actually Christian (or religious) although the values are. It was a series of video based talks, and then dinner, and time to work through the questions (privately, not with a group).

Anyhow, the couple who did the talks said they established a "10 o'clock rule". If they're having a difficult conversation and it is too late at night, and one of the partners does not feel objective enought to continue, one of them will say, "Ten o'clock rule," to the other, and the conversation is postponed until a better time.

We'll both declare the ten o'clock rule at any given time of the day, if the time isn't right. It's saved lives in this house, let me tell you.

My DH and I had a habit of fighting right after our sessions -- someone always felt a little raw when we got in the car and we didn't know how to STOP talking after we walked out of the office.

Ah. Good to know, and that's definitely a trait of mine. Thank you. There will be time-outs if needed.

{{{Cindy and Mr. Cindy}}}

{{{juliana and Z}}}

We're about to head out to some function or other, but I will attempt to distract you folks with photos:

Baby and Cat

Starting to get hair

Ever wonder what a baby's Armor Class was? (gamer humor)

Mom's doctor declared her officially in remission yesterday!

YAY! That's great news, Calli.

Oh, Cindy, I'm so sorry for your M-i-L, for Scott, for the whole family. How tragic.

We used to be taught in church the old, "Never let the sun go down on your wrath." It may work for some people, but it doesn't for us. I need timeouts; Greg needs timeouts. We shelve it and deal when we can, as often as either of us needs to, until it's done.

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Half an hour ago I got a call from the school nurse. Aidan's temperature is at least 100. That's as far as the thermometer got before she lost control of his flailing limbs. She wants me to come get him, but I have no way to get to the school. I called the transit office to figure out how best to get there, was put on hold for that half hour, and the next bus won't get here until he's loading up on his bus for home. Argh!

eta: A friend of Nick's is coming to get me. Whew.

((((Cindy, Scott, and family))))

That's frustrating, Deena. Can your husband pick Aidan up on his lunch break and drop him off? (I forget what the transport situations are among Buffistae.)

Unfortunately not, Calli. He's on the other side of town and doesn't have enough time to get here before his lunch would be over, and Aidan's program is over in an hour anyway. Oh well.