Spike's Bitches 26: Damn right I'm impure!
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
And not the kind of pressure that Gris is getting.
Just to be clear: I'm under no pressure to convert whatsoever. None. Zero. It is completely assumed by everybody that I will NOT be converting, that I will remain non-Jewish, and that the eventual result of this relationship will be amiable parting, as so many relationships end. I will never be put under pressure to convert - if I decide to give it a whirl, it will be my own decision and I'll probably have a difficult time convincing the GF I mean it. She'll
probably
try to talk me out of it. She has no idea I'm doing all this reading, and I don't intend to enlighten her about it until I've come to some sort of conclusions.
Judaism is fascinating to me. I'm actually very interested in the religion. Thus the reading. If I thought there was no chance that I could actually believe it, then I wouldn't be looking at it at all, other than maybe to understand GF better. But that's not the case - my agnosticism is a reluctant agnosticism, due mainly to my loss of faith in Christianity. Exposed to something different, I could easily return to my religious background, and this is a perfect excuse to start studying one of the different things.
My complaining has nothing to do with being mad that I'd have to convert to get married to this girl. It has only to do with the dual standards of what a convert is held to believe as opposed to what a born Jew is held to believe. Inconsistency annoys me, even when it makes perfect logical sense, like in this case.
My complaining has nothing to do with being mad that I'd have to convert to get married to this girl. It has only to do with the dual standards of what a convert is held to believe as opposed to what a born Jew is held to believe. Inconsistency annoys me, even when it makes perfect logical sense, like in this case.
Yep. I think it would probably be true in most religions, though. If you're born into a faith, and take whatever steps/perform whatever rites that are a natural process of being reared in that faith, you're less likely to get bounced, and more likely to just be seen as "confused" or "heterodox" when you don't fully buy into all the tenets.
If you're converting, the act itself is different. It means (should mean) that you're saying, "I was searching for something you guys have what I was searching for. I fully buy into your stuff." When there's all the cultural stuff tied into the religion, it's going to be that much harder.
er, could it be fleas?
AAAAH! Why would you say such a thing? For some reason I find that more icky than a mosquito.
Looks like flea bites normally happen in clusters or lines, though, and these are kind of spread out.
ow ow ow ow. I just scooched forward in my wheelie office chair, leading with my back, and now I hurt (more).
AAAAH! Why would you say such a thing? For some reason I find that more icky than a mosquito.
because my brain is set to stupid. It does sound like mosquitos, though. I'm sorry I said the F-word, it was dumb.
AAAH! Why would you say that? You are never dumb nor stupid! I was just being easily freaked, maybe because a mosquito would mean some annoyance until it died, while fleas would mean eradication procedures which would be time-consuming and wearying.
In any case, absolutely no stupidity on your part. And happy anniversary!
Edited because, fuck, I haven't had my coffee yet. I know it's not your birthday, but I typed "happy" and then my fingers took over.
AAAH! Why would you say that? You are never dumb nor stupid!
Heh.
Do they work well at night?
They do for us. Her normal night diaper is one of those with a fleece-topped doubler and a wool wrap. They hold a lot of wet, which is why I like to reserve them for night or going out.
Ellie's too cute!
Although I think in any case the rabbis are supposed to strongly, strongly discourage conversion, especially for the purpose of marriage.
Well -- and this is my opinion only -- if you're not converting b/c of your own personal faith/relationship with God/spirituality, then you shouldn't be converting at all. It should be a blessing, not a burden, and I'd think that converting to a religion because you "have to," rather than *want* to, would be a burden. YCMV.
But the fact remains that in order to get married and have kids with this girl, I'd need to be a Jew first.
Is it that serious already, then?
What about Lana L---?
Noooooooooo!!!
Today Tom and I have been married for one year.
Happy Elope-iversary!!!
Happy anniversary, Nora and Tom!
Sparky, the funeral was really tough, but my friend seems to be keeping it all together. Her little guy is a bit baffled and sad, but that's totally normal for a six-year-old. They're going to be okay, but it's still hard to accept. No one should die that young, and in that much pain.
GC, my parents got me (read: really for them) a kitten they named Fancy when I was still a toddler. Their cat, Samantha, was pathologically jealous of me, and had clawed me a couple of times, so they had to find a new home for her. And then I wound up allergic to Fancy anyway.
It's Wednesday, right?
