vw, take care sweetie. Insent.

I want kids. It's one of the few things I have never questioned in my life. Lately it has been more about reminding myself that it is going to be a while before I can even consider when to have kids, and talking a lot to my therapist about my fears of not being able to physically care for an infant. He has been trying to convince me that there are ways to adapt to limitations. That being said, I don't get questioning someone who doesn't want them or does want them. What's the point?

Nora, if you're looking for something permanent, I've been considering Essure. It's an insert for the fallopian tubes, but it's non-surgical. Of course, a doctor who won't do a vascectomy probably won't put in essure implants either. But it looks like a really cool option.

If I'm ever remotely likely to have sex again I'll be getting it.

{{vw}}

It used to be true that the IUD was hard to insert on a woman who hadn't been pregnant before, but I don't think that's true any longer.

It's not the inserting, it's potential (and with today's variety, rare) fertility-destroying complications they're worried about.

Though I strongly suspect it's much easier to insert on a post-partum cervix than on a tightly-closed unused model.

Sorry if I sounded churlish about Alistair. If I meet one who doesn't evoke an upperclass twit of the year, then I am fully prepared to revise my opinion. It's my problem, not the Alistairs.

Ms. Bug, here is your mantra when you feel the panic coming on: "I'm flippin' out like a mammal! And yet, though I am a mammal, does it perforce require that I flip? Nay, not! For indeed, many mammals are flipless, perhaps even sedate. Consider the humble sloth. Not so flippy..."

I'm hoping that by the time you're done with that you'll be so distracted by the nagging thought that "Hec is an idiot!" that crisis will have passed.

I always used to want kids -- or, at least, I really really *wanted* to want kids, because it's What You're Supposed To Do When You Reach Womanhood (gag, barf, hello stereotype).

But lately, I'm not feeling the mythological "clock ticking" that you hear women in their 30s talking about. I don't have any particular desire for kids, though if I married or had a LTR with someone and *he* wanted kids, I probably would have them (or at least one). Because, while I don't have any particular desire for kids, I'm also not anti-kid-in-my-future.

Toddson, ha! Sure he could've decided to end it all and from inside the car, set it on fire... JZ, I'm just blunt.(But not blunted...totally sober) I hope I didn't offend.

Much strength VW.

Edit: I meant vw.

Edit of the Edit: Not to say the other VW isn't having issues right now too. It's not all bratwurst and beer there.

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I am, at the moment, neither for nor against having children of my own. I am getting to the point, age wise, where I should make an actual decision and live with it, so it is mine and I own it.

I do however, really, really want a dog.

Sorry if I sounded churlish about Alistair. If I meet one who doesn't evoke an upperclass twit of the year, then I am fully prepared to revise my opinion. It's my problem, not the Alistairs.

It's OK. I just honestly can't hear a difference between Alistair and any other reasonably familiar Celtic/Celticized name. It's in the same box in my head as Owen, Aidan, Ian, Sean, Brendan etc.

We all have our name things. I nixed Caroline because I think it sounds prissy and straitlaced, much to Dylan's disappointment.

I have to admit I wasn't real sure about "Emaryn" at first, but "Leif" was an instant hit.