THIS is what wanting to cuddle could get you.
Aimee's been skipping...
On my seventh birthday, I wanted a toy fire truck, and I didn't get it, and you were real nice about it, and then the house next door burnt down, and then real firetrucks came, and for years I thought you set the fire for me. And if you did, you can tell me!
Xander ,'Same Time, Same Place'
Natter 37: Oddly Enough, We've Had This Conversation Before.
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
DXMachina - Aug 05, 2005 7:59:18 am PDT #6016 of 10002
You always do this. We get tipsy, and you take advantage of my love of the scientific method.
DavidS - Aug 05, 2005 7:59:50 am PDT #6017 of 10002
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Heh. I've hugged both msbelle and Jesse. They managed to just barely stifle their impulse to recoile in horror.
Happy Birthday, Fred Pete!
Aims - Aug 05, 2005 8:00:14 am PDT #6018 of 10002
Shit's all sorts of different now.
I didn't!! I might have missed it, but I didn't skip!
Calli - Aug 05, 2005 8:00:41 am PDT #6019 of 10002
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
While the whole paying for cuddles thing kinda squicks me, some of my best yoga sessions have involved a lot of touching. I'm crap at learning physical stuff, so when a yoga teacher puts her hands on my body and moves it into the position she wants it, there's often a *click* of "Oh, yeah, this does feel more stable/stretchy/whatever." But there's a very clear idea of who is touching and where and how/when/why. There's no emotional context other than, "Let's get this right."
Jessica - Aug 05, 2005 8:01:05 am PDT #6020 of 10002
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
I enjoy getting my hair cut as long as the shampoo person stays the fuck away from my neck. I love a good head massage, but I have neck-touching issues and have walked out of haircuts because the stylist ignored my "Please don't touch my neck" requests.
When I told a doctor the same thing once, her answer was "Were you ever strangled?" She seemed genuinely surprised that I hadn't.
Aims - Aug 05, 2005 8:02:02 am PDT #6021 of 10002
Shit's all sorts of different now.
t goes back and reads
Well, it's not like anyone is surprised I'm slow on the uptake. I just found out "Afternoon Delight" was a song about sex!
Jessica - Aug 05, 2005 8:03:17 am PDT #6022 of 10002
And then Ortus came and said "It's Ortin' time" and they all Orted off into the sunset
I just found out "Afternoon Delight" was a song about sex!
Was it from that Arrested Development episode?
DavidS - Aug 05, 2005 8:03:25 am PDT #6023 of 10002
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
I just found out "Afternoon Delight" was a song about sex!
Perky, antiseptic, "Up With People" sex though.
DXMachina - Aug 05, 2005 8:03:29 am PDT #6024 of 10002
You always do this. We get tipsy, and you take advantage of my love of the scientific method.
Well, it's not like anyone is surprised I'm slow on the uptake. I just found out "Afternoon Delight" was a song about sex!
Right, and you found Emaline under a cabbage leaf...
§ ita § - Aug 05, 2005 8:07:37 am PDT #6025 of 10002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
I realize that the majority of the time I'm ground-fighting with other guys and that I do feel kind of self-conscious in the rare instances I'm paired up with a woman
It's the bits inbetween the fighting that seem surreal for me. Like when you pause in midguard to have a conversation with someone else, or listen to the instructor or tell a joke, and you realise you have your legs wrapped around the waist of some guy you've only just met, and in a second will be pulling him down on top of you.
Of course, the scenarios that are plainly the attacker trying to pin you are inherently squicky, but it's self-defense and as Jars mentions -- mental training.
I touch when I teach. It's just what I need to do to get body parts in the right place, or see what it's supposed to feel like (krav does translate to contact, after all). Maybe there have been a couple times when it was charged, but we both knew and studiously avoided admitting it.