Am I a big fat meanie?
I got an e-mail yesterday from someone wanting to see the apartment. Her English is terrible, and I just was not impressed with her inquiry e-mail. When I responded to her, I told her I was interviewing people on Monday and Tuesday and gave her available times, asking her to let me know what time worked best for her.
She e-mailed me back telling me that Thursday at 5pm would work best for her. Um...that wasn't one of the options.
I just e-mailed her back telling her that I'm hoping to have made a decision by Thursday, so could she make herself available on Monday or Tuesday. I really want to just go tell her to bug off.
vw, in this, go with your instincts. Let her come interview if she can manage one of your times, I guess, but don't feel like you have any obligation to someone who doesn't feel right.
Ok. Thanks for the validation. I just feel like I'm being a bit discriminatory. But, the thing is, I already have a landlord that I can't understand half the time. I don't want a roommate I can't communicate properly with.
vw, what happened to reporter guy? Clearly, he's the best one, as he will not be there!
She e-mailed me back telling me that Thursday at 5pm would work best for her. Um...that wasn't one of the options.
Oh, I *hate* it when people do that! In the process of selling my car, I hear the same thing all the time.
In the process of selling my car, I hear the same thing all the time.
What is it with people? And she's a grad student at BU, so clearly she's not totally stupid.
vw, what happened to reporter guy? Clearly, he's the best one, as he will not be there!
I'm meeting him on Monday at 2pm. He's my favorite so far. Although, Emily has a good point...it would give us someone to worry about in Iraq...
Poptarts:
This [link] is my reporter guy.
I don't know what an AD is
Attention Deficit... um, what was I saying?
Oh, screw that, vw. Your compunction is admirable, but living with someone is a big thing. If they get on your tits, your whole quality of life is wrecked. Sounds like this person is not the person for you - and there are
plenty
of housemates out there, and plenty of apartments. There's absolutely no need to put yourself in a bad position.
I once accepted a boy as a flatmate (and this really is a story where we see that Fay Is A Nasty Person) whom I thought seemed very young, but nice enough. I thought he was maybe 18, and a very young 18. It was only after he moved in and I realised he was 24 that I twigged that he had learning difficulties. Without going into details (and I will just come out of this as Stone Cold Bitch, because it did my head in) I found this tremendously difficult to deal with, and my other flatmate all but moved out, he annoyed her so much. I realise that this was fairly ghastly of us, but - I was working long hard days, and the flat had been a really nice environment with 3 girls who got on well, got each other's jokes and were on the same wavelength. And then this lad moved in and he just didn't
get
things. It meant that I always had to be consciously trying to be nice, and quite often not succeeding, because there was no real meeting of minds going on. And I'm not a patient woman at the best of times. All three of us had a really negative experience with this flatshare. Big time.
Your home should be your refuge from the world, not a place you dread returning to. You go with your instincts.
