I spend a lot of time trying to convince my sister to stop reading between the lines and deciding on a conclusive (and always negative) meaning of what her guy said.

Isn't this the whole point of the He Just Isn't That Into You book that's going 'round?

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Well, if we can talk in generalities. I do find men say what they mean, but I don't run across many who say it all. I think that's why some women play the decoding thing.

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Isn't this the whole point of the He Just Isn't That Into You book that's going 'round?

Guess what I got her for Christmas?

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Guess what I got her for Christmas?

A lead bar in a sock?

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Well, if we can talk in generalities. I do find men say what they mean, but I don't run across many who say it all.

More/less so than women do?

I think women do overanalyze more than men do, but I'm not sure we have any more reason to.

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I was gonna say a bag of quarters, Hec. Robin, maybe the prizes for chutzpah aren't what they used to be. Damn it.ETA: He must like me a little...I threatened his life yesterday and we still talk. Hee! If ita wrote the commercials... Latte: $2

Sweet pastry: $2
Relationships that stand up under threats of physical violence:Priceless.

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My new hair can (kind of) be seen here. [link] Hopefully there'll be more when the people with the real cameras (as opposed to camera phones) get around to uploading.

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More/less so than women do?

I don't know. Probably just differently. I also think more women are, generally speaking, socialized to please. They say we smile more (which might explain why I've had people tell me to smile all my life, or ask me if I'm angry or upset, when I'm perfectly content).

I think women do overanalyze more than men do, but I'm not sure we have any more reason to.

If there is any truth that women relate differently than men, that might explain some of it. I suspect though, that if there is girl-speak, then the men that get girl speak probably have a huge cross-over section with the poor guys that are inexplicably usually pigeon-holed in the buddy role.

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I don't think women (as a whole) think relationships are more important than men (as a whole) do, but women I know tend to think relationships are more worth discussing and analyzing. It might also have to do with showing weakness--sharing doubts and revealing you don't know what the heck is going on is not a position of strength, so men may have those thoughts but not readily share them with friends.

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I don't think women (as a whole) think relationships are more important than men (as a whole) do

I realise that my disagreement with this statement is somehow engendered by hearing men complain about women and their attitudes towards relationships.

Certainly not because of any importance I ascribe them, because I've recently come to the realisation that I just plain don't get all of it.

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