Not even telling, really, because she made the comment, they're allowed to have opinions -- but scolding and shaming?

People canna bear not to be all up in each other's business.

Which, there's the issue of This is not your business, and then there's the issue of Why are you butting in on my business in public?

Having manners is vastly underrated. It's entirely possible to get away with being a buttinsky if you have manners.

It's entirely possible to get away with being a buttinsky if you have manners.

Apparently, it's also possible to get away with it if you evince no concern whatsoever about manners but surround yourself with people who do care. People just can't find a way to tell you to butt out politely so they get kind of stuck. And then you can claim to be forthright and no-bullshit. When really you're just Bill O'Reilly.

Er, not Nutty, obviously. This commenter that irks me.

I think that there is a manners exception to callnig people on their buttinskyism. Anyway, online, nobody can tell you're giving them the cold shoulder unless you work at it.

Calling them a Bill O'Reilly or a buttinsky is a start. Or "Good evening. Please to not be all up in my business in a public venue. Concerns about my moral failings may be addressed via private email, in deference to the dignity of the entire universe. KTHXBYE!" is another option.

Hell, my sister tried to call me on how I was wishing my mother a happy birthday. I informed her that it was between Ma and me, and that we were both okay with it.

Of course, when I comment, it's because I'm right, and it'd be selfish not to share said rightness.

But if you post it in LJ, aren't you, well, ASKING for comments? Couldn't they disable comments or something? That being said, I might discuss the "idea" of special days in someones's LJ, or say that I like celebrating, but not try to shame the original poster because it's possible to have a dissenting opinion without being an asshat.

But if you post it in LJ, aren't you, well, ASKING for comments?

Yes. Well, sort of. Er, I'd say more "accepting" than "asking for," but yes. This:

That being said, I might discuss the "idea" of special days in someones's LJ, or say that I like celebrating, but not try to shame the original poster because it's possible to have a dissenting opinion without being an asshat.

is what I was trying to say -- I'm not objecting to them having opinions. I'm objecting to (paraphrasing) "You're a selfish bad daughter. Call your father."

ETA: Heh. And the top-of-page quote decided to give me this: "'Day' is a vestigial mode of time measurement based on solar cycles. It's not applicable. I didn't get you anything."

It's like, if it were here -- someone says, "I do X," five more people say, "Oh, you do X? I do Y or Z," and it's all cool. If someone said, "OMG you SUCK for doing X! X makes you a terrible person!!!"? Much less cool.

"OMG you SUCK for doing X! X makes you a terrible person!!!"? Much less cool.

Well, unless it is kicking puppies.

I forgot: Happy Birthdays, new jobs, and Solstices to all Buffistas to which those apply!

Going to see a play on Thursday--"I Am My Own Wife"--and I am so EXCITED! I almost never go to the theater anymore.

Jesse, what have you been up to?! [link]