My friend was thinking that her hips are just wider now, no matter how skinny she could get now.

I think my hips are the same. With me, it was just post-kid flab. I'm very afraid of what sort of state I'll be in after Number Two arrives.

You're a tall guy with broad shoulders.

And therefore not a sister to whom I should say "sing it, sister."

Weight aside, I'd like to be the size I was when I graduated from college (which is about 2-3 sizes smaller than I am now, and I remember thinking I was fat *then,* which is sort of bitterly ironic, since I'd be ecstatic to be that size today).

I'm very afraid of what sort of state I'll be in after Number Two arrives.

Well, of course you'll be fabulous. Also tired.

It's fascinating being in such a weight-concerned milieu as krav. I say concerned, not obsessed, since there are no actual requirements to change our weights -- we're just doing this recreationally (most of us -- there is one guy who fights at 130 and can change his weight very precisely). But there's the concern where the 5'2 130lb girl realises that the lightest of her sparring partners are 145, and the heaviest is near 200.

Or the concern where I moan about a 135lb guy still being stronger than me. It just doesn't seem fair.

It's weirdly casual. "Hey -- can I have someone nearer 150 to practice on a couple times? No offence -- yadda yadda." "None taken," shrugs the 110lb woman.

I'd love to have my high school figure again. I'm pretty sure I have it, just underneath a lot of additional flesh that inexplicably showed up when I stopped playing soccer and/or tennis every single day and started drinking beer.

If I did get it back somehow, I wouldn't worry that my thighs were too big the way I used to.

I'm aware of my weight mostly for recreation purposes: Like how much weight will I need on my divebelt to counteract my newly added layer of flab? Or some yoga poses aren't as easy as they used to be.

If I were climbing as much as lori is I'd be more aware of it too. Like do I weight to much to be belayed by this person. Perhaps that's one of the reasons i've been avoiding climbing?

I thought I was fat in high school. nope. I know weight less than I did when I graduated college. While loseing another 20 would be nice, I'll be happy if I don't gain

I was terribly skinny in HS and college. Try as I might, I could never gain more than a few pounds.

I don't think I want to go back to the days of being 6' 3" and 145#.

So is it generally asssumed to be universal that people gain weight when/after they finish college? Is it something related to leaving college (like, not knowing how to cook), or is it just "I am no longer 22 with the metabolism of a hummingbird" we are talking about?

I know bodies change shape from, say, 30 onward, in more obvious ways from 45 onward, but I don't know about 18 to 30 trends.

(I mean, I know I changed some from age 22 to 27, got hairier, got more sensitive to allergens, gained exciting new hormone-headaches. But, gaining weight wasn't part of that.)