I'd like to control/predict reactions to me* as much as is possible and presentation is just one aspect of how I do this
YES. Honestly, there are times I want to wear the shiny boots, and don't, because people will look. Or the really short skirt, or whatever. Sometimes it's just what I want to have on.
I think I dress presentably just about all the time, unless it's really cold (I get psycho with the layering) or there's a laundry issue. I will sometimes match my underwear -- I like pretty things much more than I'm concerned with being pretty. Being pretty makes things complicated. Being near pretty things is just pleasant.
Being near pretty things is just pleasant.
Zactly. I'm wearing my long flowy purple dress today (HolyClothing, Jilli), and a stranger complimented me on how elegant I looked and asked what the occasion was. I explained that I just liked the dress.
I'm not trying to look beautiful, I'm trying to look me. Not infrequently my clothes are more interesting than my face, and God knows they're always better than my hair. (I NEED A HAIRCUTTER STAT!)
But once you hang out with a guy for awhile, you find out that he's not "a guy", he's this particular guy, and he has particular-guy preferences.
Dude. Generalities. I can edit the original post and put "most" in there if you need. I thought it was implied, since asking if all X are Y is way dumber a question about people than I'd ever dream of asking. Even so, I've been trying to throw in the words like "general" and "some."
Well, a generality can be so general as to be meaningless. Do guys like garlic? Do guys like purple?
But it seems to me that very many guys assume that most women will tweeze, pluck and shave, and that's what women do, and that's how women will look.
Ah. There I think you're right- though honestly, if it's not an outstanding feature, they'll likely never know if you don't tweeze, pluck or shave. I have been known to go a while without shaving my legs because the hair there is blonde and fine- no one but Mr. H would ever know, and he doesn't get to tell me to shave until he thinks about ridding himself of the mountain man look. I just waxed my brows and stuff this weekend, and I had to tell him I had even after he saw Waxnhair in the trash.
I don't wear my shiny red shoes to work because I know just about every person would have to comment on them and it would get so tiresome. Yes, they are red. Yes, bright red. Yes, they are kinda funky. However, out and about, I don't mind a random stranger complimenting me on them, or asking where I got them.
I have had more comments about unshaven legs from women than I have from men.
This is me. I'm currently shaving but during my fuzzy years I had an angry old lady accost me in the street and, I kid you not, point at my legs and squeak, "Thats. Thats just not. Natural!"
It seemed that most women who gave me a hard time were vexed by the "if I have to suffer, you should too" phenom. It was pretty sad.
Glitter fans beware: Deputy sues Florida hospital after receiving injection of glitter in the ass.
OK, that is just so weird. How could you
accidentally
fill a syringe with glitter instead of Demerol?
