I've really got to learn to just do the damage and get out of town. It's the 'stay and gloat' that gets me every time.

Ethan Rayne ,'Potential'


Spike's Bitches 23: We've mastered the power of positive giving up.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


vw bug - May 16, 2005 2:59:07 pm PDT #9416 of 10001
Mostly lurking...

I didn't feel like the interview went overly well, though. And it was so short, which was just so strange to me.

The existence of a candidate whose skills are better aligned than yours with the position doesn't negate that.

I'm actually worried that I'm going to have a difficult time finding the kind of job that I want, because really? I'm overqualified. That may have been the issue here.

Mostly, I am absolutely boggled that your old employer is trying to help you out. That's way above and beyond what anyone would expect, and it's huge good news. That is a much, much bigger stroke of good fortune than even a job offer.

I'm really boggled by it too. I really expected them to be all, "Sorry. Wish I could do something, but my hands are tied." And, in the short term it's probably better fortune than a job offer, but in the long term, I wish I didn't need the help. It's one thing for the money to be coming from an insurance company, but I actually feel really badly that I might have to take money that I didn't earn from my former company.


erikaj - May 16, 2005 3:07:53 pm PDT #9417 of 10001
Always Anti-fascist!

Vw, how do you keep finding my fucked-up mental junk mail? The only reason I know I couldn't have posted it is your name is on it. We both need to cut it out. 1. Maybe they already had somebody in mind and you blew them away, but they have an arrangement already. 2.The guy was good about correcting his mistake, and you do too deserve to keep your head above water until you are among the employed.(And I need to take my own hairpats, here.)


Scrappy - May 16, 2005 3:14:09 pm PDT #9418 of 10001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

Maybe they already had somebody in mind and you blew them away, but they have an arrangement already

This would be my guess. The short interview seems to point to it.


Betsy HP - May 16, 2005 3:15:28 pm PDT #9419 of 10001
If I only had a brain...

I didn't feel like the interview went overly well, though. And it was so short, which was just so strange to me.

I'm still learning this myself, but no matter how wonderful you are, not everybody in the world will love/appreciate you. IF you didn't ace the interview (and it's an if, as everybody else said, there are many other factors), write it off to bad chemistry.

I once flunked an interview -- I could feel it going south. The friend who'd asked me to talk to the guy told me later that the guy'd disliked me from the moment I ordered a plain hamburger at a place that specialized in swiss-cheese-and-pineapple sort of burgers.

What-ever. I wasn't the right person for him, and vice versa.


vw bug - May 16, 2005 3:20:11 pm PDT #9420 of 10001
Mostly lurking...

We both need to cut it out.

K -erika. It's a deal. I will if you do :)

not everybody in the world will love/appreciate you.

So hard to believe sometimes...I mean, what's not to love?


Polter-Cow - May 16, 2005 3:27:01 pm PDT #9421 of 10001
What else besides ramen can you scoop? YOU CAN SCOOP THIS WORLD FROM DARKNESS!

So hard to believe sometimes...I mean, what's not to love?

*hug-bug*


Topic!Cindy - May 16, 2005 3:37:49 pm PDT #9422 of 10001
What is even happening?

how do you keep finding my fucked-up mental junk mail?

I adore you, erika--just flat out adore you.

vw, my first guess was what Scrappy suggested--that they already had someone in mind. It could also be that someone interviewed who'd done this exact job, or maybe someone who worked for them before took it. Real Estate offices, in my experience (I live next door to the Broker/Owner of the biggest non-Century 21 office in my town) are rife with nepotism.

I am sorry you didn't get the job. Maybe you'll be able to find something that doesn't suck up both days of your weekend.


Susan W. - May 16, 2005 3:46:56 pm PDT #9423 of 10001
Good Trouble and Righteous Fights

Maybe they already had somebody in mind and you blew them away, but they have an arrangement already.

Yep. Depending on the organization, they may have been obliged to post the position and interview X number of candidates even if their decision was made. Twice I've been in interviews where they TOLD me I was great, but that the job was going to go to an internal candidate. Another time, I was the internal candidate.

And even if that wasn't what happened, not getting one job doesn't negate your interview skills. No one bats a thousand in job interviews indefinitely--the odds are just too stacked against you. If you suck because you didn't get one job, I might have to decide that I suck for not winning that writing contest or selling my first book, and I refuse to accept that. AFAIC, we're both brilliant.


erikaj - May 16, 2005 4:07:19 pm PDT #9424 of 10001
Always Anti-fascist!

Thanks, Cindy. OK, vw, we'll both cancel the streaming audio from KFKD. I have been on many an interview where I suspect it didn't matter how I did, that they were holding for a specific candidate.


vw bug - May 16, 2005 4:09:25 pm PDT #9425 of 10001
Mostly lurking...

Huh. In a little win in the world - remember the website that wouldn't remove my poem and called me a crazy, loud-mouth, prochoice bitch? MSN made them take it down! Wheee! I won!