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'Heart Of Gold'


Spike's Bitches 23: We've mastered the power of positive giving up.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Aims - May 10, 2005 7:15:21 am PDT #8259 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.

I may not be world's best mom, but I'm not so rotten that they'll end up being serial killers.

At worst, they'll just duct tape people. No big. I've seen worse.

Susan, I would call around and tour some facilities and even put Annabel on a few waiting lists. Even if you don't use/need them, she has a potential place. Hell, I think Em's still on a couple, now that I think about it.


Aims - May 10, 2005 7:26:14 am PDT #8260 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.

My heart broke a little this morning. Em pouted and then cried a little when I left her at school. Poor baby. :(

Didn't even relaize that was a serial. Heh.


Laura - May 10, 2005 7:40:07 am PDT #8261 of 10001
Our wings are not tired.

The daycare I had the boys at had monitors in the office where you could go and see your child at play. MANY children sobbed until their parent was out of sight and by the time they got to the office they could see the child was over it and playing happily.


Susan W. - May 10, 2005 7:40:40 am PDT #8262 of 10001
Good Trouble and Righteous Fights

I don't even know where to begin evaluating daycare options. (Well, other than the obvious of talking to my local working mom friends, asking how they made their choices, and seeing if they'll give me ballpark cost figures.) I'm so not ready for this.

And on a more immediate note, Annabel's sore throat has turned into your basic cold, with coughing and sneezing. I'm not going to hurt her by taking her to Costco with me this afternoon, am I? I wouldn't take her anywhere where she'd be interacting with other children, but it won't hurt her just to go out and about with a cold any more than it does an adult at this point, does it?


§ ita § - May 10, 2005 7:40:52 am PDT #8263 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

My sister cried so hard my dad almost took her home (and she was 18! Har! Okay, kidding). I told my parents to go home and leave me alone.


Aims - May 10, 2005 7:43:10 am PDT #8264 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.

I don't even know where to begin evaluating daycare options. (Well, other than the obvious of talking to my working mom friends, asking how they made their choices, and seeing if they'll give me ballpark cost figures.) I'm so not ready for this.

Basically, we just went and talked to the director, looked at the school and the baby room, talked to the teacher. We meant to ask for some parental references, but when they said they could take her on the date I needed, we handed them a check. You could also look at your local Better Business Bureau and whatever state authority oversees daycare. In California, it's the Dept of Welfare or some such.


Aims - May 10, 2005 7:43:27 am PDT #8265 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.

I told my parents to go home and leave me alone.

This does not surprise me.


beth b - May 10, 2005 7:45:44 am PDT #8266 of 10001
oh joy! Oh Rapture ! I have a brain!

My guess , Susan, is that even if number 2 becomes a possibility - having some sort of day care worked out would be good. I am guessing if you want to doubel your freelance income you will need to know that 2- 3 days a week you have uninterrupted time to either work or meet with clients.

Just a note on CC debt. Even though it would be cool to pay it off before you bought a house - one of the plans in the back of my mind is when the interest rate goes up on our laon - a refi might be in order - and there should be money to pay them all off. and since I don't see them being paid off in three yrs and keep the savings where we think it should be...


Susan W. - May 10, 2005 7:49:25 am PDT #8267 of 10001
Good Trouble and Righteous Fights

I am guessing if you want to doubel your freelance income you will need to know that 2- 3 days a week you have uninterrupted time to either work or meet with clients.

Heh. I'd need to way more than double it to be able to afford any kind of daycare that I'd have to go on a waiting list for. If I tripled it, I'd probably be in a position to hire a college student to come watch her 15 hours/week or so in the living room while I worked in the office.


Sparky1 - May 10, 2005 7:49:25 am PDT #8268 of 10001
Librarian Warlord

Susan, it seems like the other families at your church would be a good resource for you to ask some questions about the day-care places they use, or places they've rejected. Also, nannies are often a network, from what I can tell -- it seems like my friends have found their nannies by asking their friends' nannies if they know anyone who is available.