There are different groups, but I'm not really interested in them. Really, I'm not all that interested in this one was well.
Yeah, I was just thinking maybe you could join another in the spirit of marital compromise, one you might feel less awkward about, or one that might interest you more, plus you'd reap the benefits of getting out of the house, with other adults, for something other than work.
My church had a great marriage course, which although produced by a church and led by Christians, wasn't actually religious, or in any way a bible study, or bible-themed study. At most (that I can remember) the leaders (it's a vid based course) mention their faith casually in it. If, by chance, your church is offering it (http://themarriagecourse.org/marriage/ ) I would recommend it as something you and your wife could take together, and I would recommend it over the PDL, particularly since your world view is different than hers. It's a very healthy course.
Did she say why she wants you to take the PDL? I am being nosy, because I really am puzzled when I see PDL recommended for people who don't believe.
Kinda pointless so far. You start off with the premise that God has created you for a specific purpose and I don't buy into that.
You're already taking it?
Also: the Boppy is the most perfect thing known to mankind, and I find it easier to take the baby out of the bedroom and feed her on the couch with the Boppy at 4am than to try feeding her in the bed. This may change if and when we figure out side feeding, but at the moment, my bigger-than-her-head boobs are making that particular position a no-go.
The side feeding gets way easier as your milk production evens out. And I am totally with you on rather get out of bed than use the boppy in bed.
Gud, is your wife trying to make you believing as she does some kind of project?
Not really, she's just hoping that some point the lightbulb will go on as she puts it. Right now, she's too angry at me most of the time to work on converting me.
Plei, are you doing the football hold?
I can see why that'd feel awkward, Gud, but I can also kind of understand why your wife would be surprised at the awkwardness. She clearly feels very comfortable in the discussion group, and it can be really really hard to imagine that anyone could feel uncomfortable in a setting where you feel at home. Even if you know intellectually that there are aspects of the setting that would make a certain person uncomfortable, it can be hard to believe that was feel safe and welcoming to you is not for everyone.
She's starting the group and wants me to be a part of it so that other guys will see there is a male in the group. So I'm in there to support the starting of the group.
AW, Gud. Glad she's not making ultimatums, but sorry about the anger.
The side feeding gets way easier as your milk production evens out. And I am totally with you on rather get out of bed than use the boppy in bed
It's not a production issue, it's a boob-to-head ratio issue. When she's bigger and has more neck control, we'll be able to do it without frustrating her and killing my neck and arm. Of course, if I had an additional arm, I could prop the baby and the boob and position the nipple for latch on, and all would be well.
I football hold when I need to, but the Boppy saves me from having to do it all the time.
t /Boppy likes carrots.
Gud, I wish I had some suggestions for you. It seems like you're stuck between a rock and a hard place with this.
