Jayne ,'The Message'
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I just had a couple hours of hanging out at the library with my friend and her son. SUCH fun! He is such a cutie. My favorite part? He came running into the little cafe area yelling, "Valrie! I made Shrek burp! And LOUD!"
And then there was the leaving..."Have a good Monday!"
But nothing about the outside of hip bruises the clumsy get. I would assume someone who looks well kept and unbruised anywhere else and has no history on their chart of any other injuries would not raise a red flag the way somene presenting with any of the items on your list would.
It's hard to tell which of my bruises are clumsiness bruises, and which are things that have similar physical causes of abuse. But I think my upper arms are where I klutz, and they're abuse indicators (they tend to look like fingers, although I've never noticed it looking like a whole hand).
My point was mainly not to associate abuse-markers with the face. My unseasoned understanding is that a long-term abuser isn't going to do that (but a heat-of-anger abuser may very well) -- there is the scenario of beating, with a weapon, which may hit in many klutzy places.
I marked the list of typical abuse bruises. Writers collect disturbing things.
god, I'm fucking exhausted. I hate that time with my family always turns into a bloody After School Special.
(((Nora)))
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Anyone else?
ION, 2 more days of work. Just two days...
{{{Nora}}} I'm so sorry, babe.
ION, I now have a pretty jar of "Hillbilly Bubble Bath." I damn well better get an A since this project has now cost me more than $20.
Because certainly there are people out there who get suspicious-looking bruises for totally innocuous reasons.
Yeah, I am that person.
Last spring when I saw my OB/GYN (she's very good about asking about domestic violence even if I have no bruises), I had a series of small round bruises on my arms and torso. She said "That's a lot of bruises....but unless you have a partner who is poking you really hard with their finger, over and over, it doesn't look like an abuse pattern."
I said, "Worse -- they're from a weapon."
I had taken up fencing 3 months earlier, and let me tell you, round bruises galore. Especially when you're as slow as I am.