How are you feeling, Beth?
Dawn: Is that supposed to scare me? Spike: Little tremble wouldn't hurt.
'The Killer In Me'
Spike's Bitches 23: We've mastered the power of positive giving up.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Scrappy - Apr 10, 2005 1:49:21 pm PDT #2427 of 10001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Deena - Apr 10, 2005 2:37:35 pm PDT #2428 of 10001
How are you me? You need to stop that. Only I can be me. ~Kara
Hee! Someday it will be called determination, and be a positive trait. Just not by me.
I haven't seen all of wonderfalls yet. Someday, I suppose.
Topic!Cindy - Apr 10, 2005 3:05:16 pm PDT #2429 of 10001
What is even happening?
That said, I am looking forward to going into labor on my own this time as I think it will feel shorter and less tiring if I get to spend part of it at home.This is how it was for me. With Ben, I was at the hospital all night. With Chris, I stayed home until about 3 hours before he was born, and was much less worn out. Of course Chris was born in the early evening as opposed to Ben's first thing in the morning birth. I wouldn't have had much rest if I stayed home for a long time with Ben, either. Julia's delivery was nearly as fast (hospital-time-wise) as Chris's, and she was induced, although all they had to do to induce her was break my water.
I had episiotomies with all three. The one I had with Julia, I wouldn't have known I had, had I not been awake for it. That's the only one of my deliveries my own OB (from a larger practice) was able to attend. He was a master. I never felt it. I never felt it healing, either. Ben? It felt like I was cut from the nape of my neck, down around and up to my collar bone, and I think I could still point to the right spot. With Chris, it wasn't bad, but it wasn't as good as the one with Julia.
My best friend tore very, very badly to the front on her third baby, and is practically an episiotomy evangelist. My own OB wasn't big on episiotomies, and said we'd avoid one if we could. I don't know the philosophy of the other two who attended Ben and Chris's deliveries. I trusted their judgment, as they had a better eye view of the situation than I did.
Susan W. - Apr 10, 2005 3:28:08 pm PDT #2430 of 10001
Good Trouble and Righteous Fights
Someone remind me I should wait until I'm a popular author with some money and space to burn before I start collecting things like this: [link]
or these: [link]
Because I want them! And that advancing sergeant would look so perfect on my desk! Spike and Boromir need a new friend!
Burrell - Apr 10, 2005 3:34:57 pm PDT #2431 of 10001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
I had an episiotomy. My OB says that they tend to do them if they are worried that the tear will be bad or will go off in a funny direction. Anyway, I couldn't really feel it except for when she was sewing it up (because by then the epi was dialed down so low). In my thinking, I imagine the difference between a tear and an epi is not nearly so great as the difference between either of them and the woman who skates by with neither.
But let's be honest (whitefonted for the sake of those who are going through this soon and don't have memory to remind them), no matter what, you take a real beating down there. It's not pretty.
Amy - Apr 10, 2005 3:42:48 pm PDT #2432 of 10001
Because books.
My OB says that they tend to do them if they are worried that the tear will be bad or will go off in a funny direction.
I tore really badly with Ben, my second, and I just remember being bored out of my mind while the OB was sewing it up, because it seemed to take so long. Healing was kind of a non-issue, because I didn't have anything to compare it to -- Jake had been a C-section.
With Sara, the OB (whitefonted for possible TMI) kept rubbing what was essentially KY jelly, I guess, all over the area, and I didn't tear at all, which seemed weird because she was a pound bigger than Ben. It seemed so smart, and made me wonder why my other OB hadn't thought of the whole lube issue. .
And you're absolutely right, Burrell. That's why ice packs are your very best friend.
sj - Apr 10, 2005 3:46:20 pm PDT #2433 of 10001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Deena, if you're around can you hop on AIM for a minute.
Cashmere - Apr 10, 2005 3:48:59 pm PDT #2434 of 10001
Now tagless for your comfort.
Those are beautiful, Susan. I am a HUGE fan of Regency fashions but I don't think it would flatter my figure (short and busty). All those Regency illustrations are so willowy I figure that was the ideal. What's a plump little woman to do?
I love Buffista birth stories so much better than my mother's or my MiL's. You guys have a much better sense of humor and a much more practical approach. I honestly think my MiL enjoyed scaring the shit out of me.
Betsy HP - Apr 10, 2005 4:01:18 pm PDT #2435 of 10001
If I only had a brain...
Some women really see it as their life's mission to make pregnant people and new mothers miserable. Bitches. (And not in a good way.)
Susan W. - Apr 10, 2005 4:06:34 pm PDT #2436 of 10001
Good Trouble and Righteous Fights
At my ideal weight, I think Regency styles would suit me well--back in my slim days, I loved anything with an Empire waist or even an A-line because they made me look willowy by disguising the fact I have a long body and short legs. I can already tell Annabel will be the same way, poor thing. She's basically in 18-month sizes, but her 12-month pants still fit, and 18-month tops that are onesies rather than shirts take some stretching to snap around her lonnnnnggg torso.