Allyson -- why don't you see what you want to write, and I'll see if any of the bits of my life make me feel oogie.

Okey dokey. I've been thinking over what I want to add, and it's more about my own embarassing moments than adding stuff about you, personally, which I think will protect your privacy.

I'm thinking about adding something about the World's Hottest Security Team as well.

I was talking to Strega last night and she sort of talked me through the more interesting points. It was "dangerous" to invite you in. I didn't know you. You could have robbed me blind or hurt me in some way. You could have betrayed my privacy. You could have been a different person than the one you are, and it never occured to me that you were anyone but who you said you were.

I'm having trouble getting the point across that it wasn't a naive view on my part. There are few people to whom I'd extend that sort of invitation. I could count them on one hand, if that hand was missing three fingers.

It's hard to describe instinct.

I guess the only way to "prove" that my instinct that you were who you said you were, incapable of hurting me or betraying trust, is to say that a couple of years later, I'm still entrusting my safety to you.

And people will say, "she could have stolen everything. she could have killed you in your sleep. she could have told everyone about the unfortunate freak-out with the peel-and-stick linoleum in the bathroom."

And all I can say about that is, "but she didn't."

Allyson, there's the universal theme again: trusting one's own instinct.

I picked ita up at SFO at half past two in the morning and she spent, IIRC, three nights in my house. We'd never met. It never occurred to me not to believe my own instinct, that the woman I'd been hanging out with online for a solid year was not likely to be somehow grossly different from the one I'd invited into my house.

connie, the Pump Room was a Georgian conceit, I think; all the Dandy crowd and the Prince Regent hung out there.

edit: Pump Room, Bath

Funny...Allyson talking about that and the Buffy Quote right now is DAWN: I feel safe with you. SPIKE: Take that back!

Well, like all of you, I'm finding the topic difficult, and particularly painful just at the moment. I thought about doing drabbles on each of my former residences, but instead I did this. Twice the length. Not in the mood to edit.
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laundry list
The house in Canton. Never saw it.

The Avalon Inn. "Play, mommy, otay?" at three am.

Warren and my youth. 20 acres, woods, a pond, fruit trees, horses, living room dancing with southern sunlight.

Coshocton. No closet space but independence.

Zanesville and my adolescence. Years in a rental and a fall down the stairs.

Tennessee. Dorm. Waterfalls and death. Midnight elopment phone call.

Indianapolis. Studio. One-bedroom. Racecar drivers. Sex.

Wichita. The castle house and a landlord's ghost.

The loft apartment. Blues and brewery beer. An old hotel's crooked floors.

Pinetop. Three people and fifty instruments in a two room cabin. Sweet sticky pine sap.

Dzil na'oodilii. The pink house. Cedar burning in the fireplace. A sleeping dog.

The home left to me stank of sewage and I needed to leave it.

Only safe in our van; we eat, sleep, dream, create there.

A vandal tosses an idle rock and my last delusion of home shatters.

Floor plans. Library books. Conversations. Fundraising. My next home waits uncertainly in the fringes of my imagination. Tremulous, ethereal, unreal.

There is no home. Not yet.

Oh, Liese. Shit. Hard one.

Liese! OMG! Canton, Coshocton.... I grew up 20 minutes from Canton! Are you in Ohio now?!?

Stops a minute. Takes a breath. Has a cuppa. Smiles, and is no longer freakish at this late hour.

Nope. Just grew up there.

What's freaking me out now, on reflection, is how much I loved each of those places. Including the one I'm sitting in right now. But all past tense. All lost to me at the moment. I panicked more than altogether necessary when the folks moved out of their house in Z-ville, my last childhood home. I drive past our former residences during our annual cycles through those cities. They cut down the flowering bush outside the castle house. There are odd curtains hanging in the apartment over the Catholic bookstore. Losses.

We really do feel like we spend more time in the van than anywhere else. My own little bubble of security that I take with me. I like to put things in it. To know I could survive on what was in there -- food, warmth, clothing, instruments, books, love.

But it's stupid to feel like a shell of metal and glass and rubber is somehow impervious to death and destruction. Everything is transient. (All life is suffering. How Buddhist of me.)

And somehow, I have to spend this summer with one house boarded up, trusting it won't be utterly destroyed in one way or another while being trampled on by a multitude of friendly volunteers. I have to drive around in that van, believing it will still be there and in one piece when I go to sleep. I have to sleep in other peoples' bedrooms and talk to them in their living rooms and ask them for money to make the pipe dream come true.

Blargh. Whingeing, I know. But there it is.

the Pump Room was a Georgian conceit, I think; all the Dandy crowd and the Prince Regent hung out there.

How ... prosaic. I think I'll continue to amuse myself by imagining delicate lasses in Empire dresses and dandies in cravats and top hats wandering around pipes and turbines.

And Deb beats me to the Pump Room, as I was off meeting my daily page quota (just kissing and talking today--much easier to write than an action sequence if you're me). I've been there several times--I lived in Bristol my year in England, just 15 minutes by train from Bath. I love Bath, though I can't quite picture myself living there. Somehow it'd feel like I was either living on a film set or that I'd stepped back in time every time I left my door in a way that none of the other history-steeped places I've lived in or visited would.

You wind up in the Pump Room after you've toured the Roman Baths. I've never been able to bring myself to try the waters. I've also been in the Assembly Rooms, which look exactly like you'd expect a Georgian party hall to look. The first time I was there they were setting up for a wedding and reception, and the hostess apologized that one of the rooms was roped off. I squeaked something like, "You can get married HERE?" and next thing I knew she was trying to sell me on it--stuffing my hands full of brochures with their very reasonable rates, talking about the capacity of each room, etc.

At the time Dylan and I had been dating for less than a month. I was already pretty sure he was it, but I wasn't quite ready to shop for reception halls, so it was a bit discombobulating. I really think that lady would've penciled me in on the calendar then and there if I'd asked.

But still no turbines. Oh, well. (I have no idea why I have turbines on the brain.)