Yelling, in my mind, equates to the person doing the yelling having no respect for the recipient. If the yeller believed the person was capable of doing whatever was being asked, then there would be no need to bring verbal violence into the situation. Either the yeller holds the recipient in contempt or the yeller feels he's at a disadvantage that can only be compensated with verbal violence.

What's a good way to get you fired up and to push past your pre-conceived definitions of your limits?

Tell me what's in it for me. Appeal to my reason. Emotional appeals and cheerleading make me suspicious.

The screaming part was my favorite. It got a lot of my cramped feelings out.

In the past, I've gotten my cramped feelings out by arguing in my head...the one place where I'm perfectly clever, perfectly cunning and perfectly right.

Being afraid of krav!screaming reminds me of one of my favorite lines in Lost Boys where the Frog brothers react to their first real vamp killing mission. "Yeah, but before, they didn't open their eyes and talk!"

People hitting back will be a new adventure.

Well, yelling at is different from yelling in a cheerleady kind of way. I know in getting people pumped up, yelling can make people feel better and more excited. "You can do it! Jump! Yes! Come on! Terrific!" It's very hard to get the energy up in a room with a modulated voice.

there would be no need to bring verbal violence into the situation

Aimee -- back me up on this -- verbal violence wasn't present in the Sunday class, was it?

That's not the only reason or method to yell, in my book. I'm yelling a) to make myself heard over chatter b) getting all eyes front right away c) as a cheer.

If I have to tell people to bring their left hand over here, and their right over there, I don't yell unless it's the umpteenth time, and they're still doing it without energy. Even then, there's not an ounce of contempt, and no feeling of disadvantage on my part.

I'm sorry that you've had such horrible yellers in your past. It sounds awful.

I'm getting what ita is saying about yelling with as opposed to at.

I completely agree with the contempt aspect of yelling at being the biggest deflator of me there is. Got plenty of that as a kid. No thanks on the paying for it.

On the other hand, I facilitated a ropes course for executives once where we were all scared pasteless...as inspired by a zipline over an 90 foot drop (might as well have been 500 feet, according to my petrified knees). The only way I could get the rest of the crew to take the leap, so to speak, was to scream encouragement at the top of my guts. Maybe it was my own fear spilling out, but it really worked. Problem was? I waited until the end and there was no one to scream for me. Damn, it was hard slipping off that ledge. Then the real screaming started. And the laughing and the exaltation.

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Emotional appeals and cheerleading make me suspicious.

I'd be loathe to call anything I do cheerleading because of associations, but it's all about emotion. If you're not into getting het up, krav isn't the right place for you at all. If an aerobics instructor yells at me emotionally, I'll probably leave. If someone's trying to simulate stress, anxiety, and encourage me to break through my barriers and channel my emotions into saving my life?

Yeah, they can yell. I've found that the contempt delivered in martial arts classes tends to come in a quiet, sneering voice. NSM with the volume.

I can't expect my students to be explosive if I'm not. I'm not explosive all the time -- the krav instructors that spend an hour being UP! UP! UP! are as crap as the ones that are down ... down ... down The key of the effectiveness is in the variety. Pull them in, relax them, startle them, make them laugh, freak them out a bit -- do all that in an hour, and people are engaged in the material, and they remember. We're trying to get past your brain in these classes.

I'm also really pointed about the distinction between yelling at the class and yelling at individuals.

Verbal violence does not necessarily mean intent to harm. I also use it to describe attempts to enforce power, "I'm right because I'm loudest." I doubt I'd do well in any class setting where one lines up before a teacher. I don't follow well. My running into another alpha female is tricky business.

I have heard people say that yelling back in a situation like that feels good, releases energy...

Aimee -- back me up on this -- verbal violence wasn't present in the Sunday class, was it?

No, it was an empowering yelling. And also, like you said, to show that we were breathing right and exhaling on the jab or kick.