vw, you are such a good friend. I've been in kind of the same situation except I stayed with my friend while her (also verbally/mentally) abusive came to move stuff out of her house. He had been completely normal-seeming around me before that day but he turned on me quickly when he saw me there obviously being on her side and acting as a barrier between the two of them. I was so so glad for all the self-defense training I had done which involved scenarios where the attacker was verbally abusive. I was able to block what he was saying to me and also coach my friend through the experience (mostly by telling her over and over "you don't have to respond to him").

It was a god-awful day but we got him out of there without the situation escalating to a physical level (although, honestly, I would have loved to beat the crap out of the little shit).

One of the things he kept trying to do that day was drive a wedge between my friend and I. He did this by saying that after she came back from my Save Serenity party, she had talked about how geeky I was for liking Firefly and Buffy etc. Hilarious! I was like, "Dude, that's the best insult you can come up with? Trying to make me feel ashamed about the TV shows I like?"

Anyway, strength to you and your friend vw. I'm so glad for her that she's getting out of the situation and has such good support for doing it.

sending ou tht ecalm ma~~ to vw and her friend J. may J find it easy to be strong today.

vw, you are an excelllent friend. I hope all goes peacefully for you and your firend today.

There's few things squickier than disembodied tongue prostheses.

I can think of one: tongue transplants. I'm sure it's a good thing for the people who need it, but reading about it grossed me out.

Thanks for all the good wishes. I just heard from J. We're going to try to go over around 1:30pm, as long as her lawyer doesn't tell her differently.

calming vibes and good luck to your friend, vw. I'm glad she has someone like you to be there for her.

Cashmere, how's your mom?

Talked to her this morning, Cindy. She sounded REALLY good. They got her up yesterday and she took a few steps. She had a shower this morning and is eating well. I think she will be going home by Saturday. At least I have my fingers crossed.

So erika was in my dreams last night, which was all her fault. If she hadn't told us about her friend on PBS I wouldn't have started wondering about cab acesses in SF. BTW, the documentary was interesting - and didn't try to paint Greg as perfect.

The shoes I wore yesterday turned some of my toenails and one of my toes black.

These things really shouldn't come up before coffee.

no they should not.

maybe I should go find coffee

That sounds like quite a speedy recovery, Cashmere. Glad to hear it.

Is that like a dye thing, Lee? Not, I mean, an injury, I hope.

It's a dye thing. Just kind of odd to look at your toes and see big black splotches, especially, as I mentioned, pre-coffee.