hmmm...but sex doesn't just *lead* to pain. It can be bad in and of itself (i.e. rape, incest, STDs, etc.) if used wrongly, but I think love is only good.
We can come by between classes. Usually I use that time to copy over my class notes with a system of different colored pens. But it's been pointed out to me that that's, you know...insane.
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Stephanie - Feb 09, 2005 12:20:12 pm PST #152 of 10001
Trust my rage
Jessica - Feb 09, 2005 12:20:34 pm PST #153 of 10001
If I want to become a cloud of bats, does each bat need a separate vaccination?
But sex isn't ever only good. You can't isolate the goodness in sex from the potential for the badness that sometimes comes riding along with it, but I see it treated like it can be good period.
The same is true of monogamy/marriage.
Any universally "n-positive" statement is going to require clarification, whether we're talking about sex, love, marriage, or chocolate.
JohnSweden - Feb 09, 2005 12:20:44 pm PST #154 of 10001
I can't even.
You can't isolate the goodness in sex from the potential for the badness that sometimes comes riding along with it, but I see it treated like it can be good period. You can't put sex in a box.
Here's the issue with that for me: who gets to say? If we are giving people responsible education about sex and saying go forth and have sex: be mindful of the consequences, I'm okay with that. But too many institutions want control over the sex individuals have.
Many religions and the current US administration don't want to give people the education they need to act responsibly. To the point of denying people the basic education they need to make informed choices and harming those people in the process. "Abstinence-only" sex ed is like requiring earplugs during music class. You have to talk about contraception.
P.M. Marc - Feb 09, 2005 12:21:23 pm PST #155 of 10001
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
Any universally "n-positive" statement is going to require clarification, whether we're talking about sex, love, marriage, or chocolate.
There's bad in chocolate??!?
NoiseDesign - Feb 09, 2005 12:22:10 pm PST #156 of 10001
Our wings are not tired
Here's the issue with that for me: who gets to say? If we are giving people responsible education about sex and saying go forth and have sex: be mindful of the consequences, I'm okay with that. But too many institutions want control over the sex individuals have.
Many religions and the current US administration don't want to give people the education they need to act responsibly. To the point of denying people the basic education they need to make informed choices and harming those people in the process. "Abstinence-only" sex ed is like requiring earplugs during music class. You have to talk about contraception.
Well stated.
DebetEsse - Feb 09, 2005 12:22:12 pm PST #157 of 10001
Woe to the fucking wicked.
Oh, I have so had bad chocolate.
Atropa - Feb 09, 2005 12:22:57 pm PST #158 of 10001
The artist formerly associated with cupcakes.
There's bad in chocolate??!?
Sadly, yes.
Lyra Jane - Feb 09, 2005 12:23:00 pm PST #159 of 10001
Up with the sun
The nature of sex itself, the act of copulating with another person to the pleasure of both, is good. Beautiful.
I agree with this, but -- we don't have sex in a vacuum. (Though it might be fun if we did.) It isn't just about the moment when the bodies connect. It's about the souls that inhabit those bodies, too, and something can be good for the body but bad for the soul.
The guys on Homicide say "Sex is like pizza. Even when it's bad, it's good."
I think that was said long before Homicide.
erikaj - Feb 09, 2005 12:23:01 pm PST #160 of 10001
Always Anti-fascist!
If you eat too much...
P.M. Marc - Feb 09, 2005 12:23:05 pm PST #161 of 10001
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear
Oh, I have so had bad chocolate.
Me too, but that was all the stuff they used to cut the actual chocolate with.