Sweet lumpy minion, you're the only one that understands. Probably 'cause I haven't sucked the brain out of you yet.

Glory ,'Potential'


Spike's Bitches 22: You've got Angel breath  

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-t - Feb 15, 2005 8:45:04 am PST #1178 of 10001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Good to hear, Sean.


Topic!Cindy - Feb 15, 2005 8:46:28 am PST #1179 of 10001
What is even happening?

Sounds perfectly appropriate for getting blindsided by a toddler.

Yes, it is. But I think there should be a basic training for parenthood, anyhow. I make a damned poor libertarian, and libertine, for that matter.

If I were king of the forest, almost everyone would be in a big time-out, right now.


Susan W. - Feb 15, 2005 8:50:38 am PST #1180 of 10001
Good Trouble and Righteous Fights

Can I interrupt for a moment to ask for a woo and a hoo?

Because I just put a check in the mail with payment in full on what's left of my student loan.

We paid off the car in November or December.
We paid off the hospital bills from Annabel's birth last month.
And now my fancy-schmancey overpriced education is finally paid for.

As of this moment, the only debts we have are....the bad credit card kind. And more of those than I'd like, though we're not anywhere near a scary place with them. But now we'll be able to pay more than the minimum on them, and we'll be a lot more comfortable on just the one regular salary. Which is not to say I don't want to build my freelance income a lot more, but still. I don't feel like the wolves are howling at our door anymore.


-t - Feb 15, 2005 8:54:52 am PST #1181 of 10001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

That's great, Susan! Woo-hoo!

Anybody got spare rent vs own advice lying around?


brenda m - Feb 15, 2005 8:56:14 am PST #1182 of 10001
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there

Dude, Susan. I can only dream of being where you are. CC's aren't a problem for me anymore - I went after those first - but I'll be paying those student loans off forever.


bicyclops - Feb 15, 2005 8:56:14 am PST #1183 of 10001

Susan: Woo


bicyclops - Feb 15, 2005 8:56:28 am PST #1184 of 10001

and Hoo!


P.M. Marc - Feb 15, 2005 8:58:30 am PST #1185 of 10001
So come, my friends, be not afraid/We are so lightly here/It is in love that we are made; In love we disappear

Anybody got spare rent vs own advice lying around?

Owning is all well and good, but unless you can afford a place that won't need a lot of fixing, or can afford to have someone else do the fixing what needs to be done, renting remains a good option.

(Note: if you're especially handy with powertools and trained in home repair, obviously, the above balance changes somewhat.)

It also depends a lot on housing costs in your area.


Susan W. - Feb 15, 2005 9:05:01 am PST #1186 of 10001
Good Trouble and Righteous Fights

Dude, Susan. I can only dream of being where you are. CC's aren't a problem for me anymore - I went after those first - but I'll be paying those student loans off forever.

Well, in theory they should've been paid in 2003--I was on a 10-year repayment schedule--but I took almost two years of deferral time.

CC's only became a problem for us when DH was unemployed for a big chunk of 2001. The small balance we'd been carrying started to creep up, but the real hit was right after he got a job. We were all, "Woohoo! We have money again!" So we booked four sets of plane tickets within a three-month period (two weddings and two family holiday trips), went wild at IKEA, I think there was a new computer involved somewhere, etc. And just when we were finally making a big dent in it, I had Annabel, went freelance, and had all those hospital bills to deal with.

In the big scheme of things, I probably went freelance too soon. And things like a Tivo, going to 15-20 M's games a year, and even our new laptop aren't exactly necessities. Though the laptop comes very, very close. But so far we haven't had the will, nor the absolute necessity, to make those big cuts, and I hope now that we've got these other debts paid off and my income is gradually improving, it won't come to that.


-t - Feb 15, 2005 9:07:57 am PST #1187 of 10001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration

Housing costs are pretty low, what we could afford to buy would be pretty similar to what we could afford to rent, even with a low down payment. The big difference I'm seeing is that we want to move away sometime in the next 1-5 years. I'm tired of not being able to rip out the tub I hate or dig up the lawn, but I'm afraid of not being able to sell when we're ready to go and not building up a useful amount of equity in the meantime.