Hey, so, like, where do we get our wedding bands? From the same place as the engagement ring, or does it matter?

If you like the jeweler, then yes -- a good one will be willing to advise you on what styles will look good with your engagement ring, how different metals will wear over time, and so on. It's also worth finding one that you can trust with future repairs.

(On the other hand, the nasty mall places don't even want you to look unless you've already more or less promised to buy from them, won't do repairs on things that weren't bought there, won't so much as let you try on the ring sizing widgets without an immediate purchase glinting in their greedy eyes. Run, don't walk, etc.)

The looked better at 19 thing? Totally not true for me. I look much awesomer now than I did at 19. (In part, because I am okay with looking awesome now, and was not then.) I am apparently also the only person I know who was plump as a teenager, and became slim as an adult (through no especial effort).

I would venture that most women aren't done baking at 19, and tend to look true cookies in their 30s. Unless they are of the ilk of Meryl Streep, who is quite the cookie at 50-something.

I am apparently also the only person I know who was plump as a teenager, and became slim as an adult (through no especial effort).

Not counting dropping baby fat?

Twas a lot of baby fat, if so. I'm comparing myself at college graduation with my cohort 3, 5, 8 years later, and I've gone down 2 sizes where most of them went up. (Some stayed the same.)

Um. Saget just emailed me pictures of the four rings he's considering, and they're all so beautiful I'm getting a little teary just looking at them.

So sweet.

I was the geekiest looking thing from geekonia when I was 19 -- too skinny with braids and big glasses and zero fashion sense. Plus, I was a painter and my zero fashion sense was partially that I spent much of my time in paint covered jeans and tee shirts.

I looked more or less the same, physically, (weight, unruly hair, lack of wrinkles) when I was 19. I just didn't quite know who I was then, and that comes across.

Saget just emailed me pictures of the four rings he's considering, and they're all so beautiful I'm getting a little teary just looking at them.

Awwwwwww.

I definitely looked better at 28 than I did at 21. The jury is still out on 29/30, because my eyes/eyelids are now unmatchy.

What was it about The OC that pissed so many people off besides...

sumi, it is the messing with the Cohen marriage bit. One, I don't buy the jealousy bit. Two, the damned show needs one pair of sane at the core levelheaded adults. There are enough bad examples. Besides, we need them to be the standin for all of us rolling our eyes times infinity when stupid people happen.

Aw, Rio stopped by.

I hate shovelling slush. They haven't plowed since the last > 3 inches storm. And with another inch or wet snow last night, there is a 2+ inch layer of refrozen slush resembling glass. No traction.

When I was 19 I was 6' 3" and 140 lbs. People were concerned for my health. I was in fact trying hard to gain weight.

On my 28th birthday, a friend said, "You've gained weight. You look good!"

I'm comparing myself at college graduation

Fair enough -- I consider baby fat to be mostly gone before graduating college anyway. I was chubby and short for half my teens, and then managed to add 6 or so inches without appreciably increasing in weight. It was ... weird.