billytea, I'm so sorry. Peace to you and yours.
"Happy Holidays" is the phrase I tend to use. If someone chooses to be offended by that... well, I guess that is someone who is desperately looking for ways to be offended and I just did them a favor.
My time with family has been good so far. Grandma is dealing pretty well with the first Christmas without Grandpa, mom is pretty cheerful despite her lack of solid food and everyone else is doing well. My nephew got an obsene amount of gifts (SiL has a LARGE family) representing a wide range of personal beliefs. I gave him a remote control Mini Cooper that is about 3" long. His Uncle Mike gave him a remote control H2 Hummer that is about 3' long. Oy. It was so very disturbing to hear my 5 yr. old nephew saying, "I got a hummer."