Is it about how you die, so much as how well you live before you die?

Sorry if I'm about to take this board to a dark place, but I had this discussion with DH before he left for Iraq. To me, even if he dies a horrible death (beheading, burned, etc.) it won't diminish how he lived his life which is the most important to me, the one who survives him.

Having said that, I think how you die is important too, particularly for the one dying. I would like to die in a way that is either beyond anyone's control, or within my control, but not in someone else's control. IOW, to me, both Fred's potential death (at the hands of the pyleans) and her actual death (at the hand of Illyria) were the kind of death I would want the least.

Woo-hoo! Ita and Zenkitty (sorry to hear about your near death a couple of years back, but way to bring in a real-life situation to back up your point) hit the nail on the head!

Has anyone seen the movie Shadowlands about C. S. Lewis's relationship w/ his wife who died of cancer? There's a line in there that goes something like "Love now. Pain later. That's the deal we make."

That's an awesome movie, WDC, I loved it.

I loved the part in Shadowlands where Lewis realizes he's never known the first thing about pain, for all he's been lecturing on how a Christian should face it, not until he loses his wife.

Great movie.

That's an awesome movie, WDC, I loved it.

Me, too. I've always had an intellectual crush on Lewis, and Hopkins made him so tender and sympathetic yet still sort of crusty, and stuffy and thud.

and thud

Oh, yeah. I've always had a bit of a writer crush on C.S. Lewis, so having Hopkins play the role (and he's one of my actor crushes) just made the movie that much more swoon worthy.

You mean other people have intellectual crushes?

And writer crushes? Awesome.

More people here do than not, I suspect.

Writer crushes? You see any actors with their own threads here?